Not having a great day today. The boys are fighting, DH is miserable because he's stuck in DC, and I'm so checked out it's not even funny.
I'm ready to throw in the towel.
I thought I was having a good food day but man, the stress is throwing me over the edge.
Sorry I wasn't around while this was going on. Wish I could remember what I used to do when my kids were younger and driving me nuts.... oh wait.,... they were just fighting and driving me nuts an hour ago!!
Yup.... fighting like little kids this morning. Usually DS is out the door before DD even gets up.... but she had a Latin Honor Society meeting this morning, so I was driving them both in together..... OH MAN! Bickering over the stupidest things. I usually try to remind them when they act like that that they are being selfish.... that they aren't giving ANY thought to how the fighting is bothering me, or how they are fighting over selfish things.... like whose Ipod was charging or who was in whose way!!! DUMB STUFF!! It is selfish because all they are thinking of is what is important to THEM... why THEY should have _______________ instead of sibling.
I agree..... put on a movie, make a cup of tea and take it to your bedroom, close the door, grab a magazine, and chill for 15 minutes!!
I know your house is small, but is there any way that they could each have a small space to themselves for an hour?? I used to send DS up to my room to watch tv or play... and then let DD have the computer or the downstairs tv for an hour.
How about a craft project? They could make Easter cards maybe??
Not feeling good today. My hip is hurting so bad I am having trouble sitting and stomach is not happy so have spent most of the day lying down in front of the TV to keep my leg straight.
I'm sorry.
QOTD for Tuesday
As we are now in our last days as Team Donald it is a good time to reflect back on what we have gained or learned.
What is one piece of advice, inspiration or information that you will take away from Team Donald?
The one thing that I keep repeating to myself is something I read back near the beginning of the thread "Hunger is not an emergency".
Funny.... I just quoted that to someone yesterday!!!
What sticks with me the most, besides that, is "I WILL NOT QUIT!" It seems so basic.... but so vital!
I'll ditto that one-
So I have to laugh this week as when 2 of my coworkers gave up sugary treats for Lent I thought that would be a good challenge also (though I don't observe Lent) and all have done quite well- well the group we have in house at the convention center this week will be the DEATH of us... There are more M &Ms, Snickers and Skittles to feed an ARMY (and the rest of the Military!) due to having the MARS company here than we know what to do with... Sigh
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Who invited those people???
Honestly.... is there any way to politely ask them to keep the treats out of sight? And I don't know about you, but for me it has to be a "DON'T EVEN START" mentality. One M&M always brings along friends!!!
Well I've been away - more or less. It was our spring break. SO I was home all week w/ the kids, totally hormonal. we went out to the zoo, arboretum, planetarium, aquarium, museum of science, and then out w/ friends and lunch/playdates. I was eating out every day!!! I made lots of bad choices esp due to the hormones
School was back in today so
I'm back on track and feeling good!
Bolded part is the MOST IMPORTANT part! That is what will keep you successful on this journey!!
Good Tuesday morning Team Donald. Our last few days as our own team. I will miss being Team Donald but I have a lot of friends on the other thread that I miss. You will enjoy meeting them.
I did very little last night. I didn't even knit last night. Had a pretty good night sleep until 2:30 when I had to go to the bathroom. I tried to get back to sleep but dh was snoring a little too loud. If I am asleep he really has to be snoring pretty bad but it is hard for me to get to sleep if he snoring too hard when I am trying to get to sleep. I finally did and I woke up just as the alarm went off. Woke up not feeling tired and I am happy about that. I didn't work out this morning so I need to make time for it this afternoon.
I agree.... our new Team Donald friends will SO enjoy meeting our old Team Mickey friends! I can't wait to have the whole group on here again!!! Rose, and Cam and CC and Tracey..... too many to name!!
Congratulations Princess_reject
This week has been slow for weight loss for me but I got a bit of a boost last night.
I looked back on the papers from my physical I had done a few months ago.... my weight is listed as 249. My weight today is 227.4
When I officially started this and got a scale I was 234... so I lost 15 pounds without even knowing I was losing
that makes me happy lol
Wow! That is super news! Make sure you take credit for the entire loss!
My advice to myself 10 years ago would be DON'T SETTLE and don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things lol
I had to tell him that it's okay to have a piece of cake when the kiddo has her birthday -- which is well over a month away -- ("not the whole honkin' cake, one small slice won't kill you to have in celebration of her birthday"). He was adamant that he shouldn't. *smacks forehead* I'm sure he'll come around eventually.
Love him dearly, that ol' stubborn guy.
Okay.... I don't want to be harsh here..... but if your DH feels like he doesn't want or can't handle a piece of birthday cake.... then he does not need to have one. DD will still have her birthday and she can still know that Daddy loves her..... even without him eating cake.
I know that I would be very resentful if DH insisted that I HAD to have a piece of cake for any reason.
Haven't you ever been in a situation before where you are trying to resist something..... to be "good"... and some meddling relative keeps saying "come on.... just one piece.... it can't hurt!" ??? I HATE being in that situation.
If you really want to be supportive of DH, perhaps you could make something special for him to enjoy that day... maybe an angel food cake trifle or something else light.
I hope you don't think I'm picking on you..... but I can really understand where your DH is coming from.
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QOTD for Tuesday
As we are now in our last days as Team Donald it is a good time to reflect back on what we have gained or learned.
What is one piece of advice, inspiration or information that you will take away from Team Donald?
- Food is fuel
- If you knew it was this hard to take off, you never would have put it on in the first place
- Own it and move forward
- people are really on your side
- Just keep swimming
I did the multiple trips to the pantry, thankfully there is nothing left to eat!! LOL Every time I walked away with nothing.
I ended up packing my scrapbook stuff for my girls weekend and playing Tinkerbell on the DS. I just needed to do something mindless and keep my hands busy.
I think part of it was the fact that I had 3 home sick, had to run to the Dr. I needed to find DS14 a ride home from Track. It was a crazy day!!! Today was better but that was because I sent everyone to school!!
Also I have not worked out since last Monday. I really need that time to focus.
I will be so happy when DD goes to school full time next year!!!!
well...... there's the problem. all 3 boys share one room, it's a major issue in the house.
DS and I had a long talk last night after the others went to bed. I told him A) this is the only family you have, don't screw it up and B) lead by Example. DS10 hits DS9 because DS14 hits DS10. I don't want them setting the example to DD that it's ok for people to hit you.
and the house is a pig sty, they just don't get that I can't do it all. I shouldn't have to clean up after them all day.
Today was better. The house is still a mess but what can you do. Tomorrow will be better, DD goes to school for a few hours so I hope to get some stuff done while she is gone.
First of all..... love your list.... especially the bolded item. I know many of us have trouble with that.
Second....
Sorry that things have been so nutty lately. Wish I had some words of advise..... but I think that everything you said to DS was spot-on!
About the pig-sty..... I have had to lower my standards tremendously... that is the only way I keep from going bonkers! The "normal" me would have a very clean house.... well picked up and ship-shape... not immaculate, but very neat and clean.
The "real life" me tolerates books on the floor in the office, overflowing paperwork drawers (DH's papers... not mine!), Legos on the dining room table (despite the fact that he has an entire
Lego ROOM!), and a DD bathroom that is absolutely
. I could literally spend all day, every day, picking up after my family and trying to keep the house the way I would like it.... but I would just make myself nuts and end up resentful. So I tolerate messes where I can (like the office), and ride a hard line on things that really bother me (dirty dishes left around, school work all over the kitchen, newspapers on the floor in the living room). It has taken me a LONG TIME to try to get past the anger and resentment.... and some people might think that I am caving in and allowing my kids (and DH) to be slobs.... but this is a battle where I am trying to create peace, not a proven "winner" (and trying to preserve my own sanity!!).
The first thing that comes to mind is "don't ever quit" !! Aside from that, I've received lots of exercise tips, nutrition tips, motivation tips and just read things on here that made me stop and think and consider something from a different point of view. I am far from perfect every day but it has really changed my life to find these challenges online. It keeps me going and gives me hope I can continue to lose.
Well, I have been totally freaking out over the news that we are probably moving back this Summer. Even though I have missed home so bad and had times when I hated it here, I don't think I am ready to go back
Nothing is official yet but it most likely will be by the end of the week. We have been researching how to get DS enrolled in HS back home. It sure looks complicated. I am going to have to make some calls and ask some questions. We can not actually register for classes until we have an address there though. Not sure when that can be done. And, our schedule is very crazy from now until the end of April which does not help matters. Sorry, I know I am just repeating myself from yesterday. DEEP BREATHS
Atleast we got good news at the Ortho today....DS will get his braces removed May 10th. There is some follow-up treatment for 6 months after that. I was in such a daze I didn't think that we won't even be here 6 months from now
Another thing to have to figure out and worry over ! DS has decided to pull out of the exchange program where he goes to
a German HS for a week. It was just too much following right behind the exchange program where he goes to Spain for 8 days. You'd think they would have coordinated that better. He is still going to Normandy with his BS troop the week after Spain so he will still miss plenty of school and have to make sure he makes up all his work...........guess who will worry themselves sick about that.
Crazy, crazy, crazy!!
You need to make a decision TODAY that all of this is NOT going to derail you! Keep telling yourself that all of this craziness and stress is NOT an excuse to eat!
When DH was hospitalized last November, I know my "old me" reaction would have been to comfort eat (after that initial period of "can't eat, too scared" wore off). I was sleeping in a hospital waiting room, living off cafeteria food and such, simultaneously bored and overstressed and overstimulated.... overtired, crying, YOU NAME IT. It was a recipe for food-disaster. But I told myself, from minute one (okay.... maybe minute two), that I was NOT going to use it as an excuse to eat poorly. I made the BEST choices possible in most every situation. I searched the cafeteria and little sandwich shop to find the best possible options. I asked at Au Bon Pain for egg whites on multigrain, even though it wasn't on the menu.... and I got it. I had oatmeal with raisins and skim milk in the cafeteria instead of pastries. When I went to the sandwich shop at 9 pm for dinner after a crazy evening, I was SO TEMPTED by the baked goods..... but I had a half a turkey sandwich on whole wheat... and a bag of Baked Lay's for a treat.
EVERY DAY was a chance to blow it.... and (nearly) every day I had to tell myself that the "stress du jour" was NOT going to be an excuse to overeat. In fact..... it was the ONE THING I COULD control. I couldn't control DH's injuries, surgery, or recovery. But I COULD control my reaction to it.
That is all you can probably do right now.... control your reaction to all of this craziness. It WILL all work out, I promise!
Try to relax and enjoy your remaining time there.
I looked at their menu online a week or so ago and was unimpressed with it too. Not much selection in the healthier options and I didn't really like what was offered. It sure seems like the pendulum swings back and forth doesn't it? For awhile everyone is offering Healthy and "diet" meals then they will switch to mostly unhealthy options. It seems like currently the trend is for the Set Price meals (appetizer, entree, maybe dessert for one price) and Unlimited Soup and Salad (and bread). I have seen that at quite a few of the chain locations..
Seems to be that way around here too. Over the years I have found that I can usually find SOMETHING most anywhere we go.... especially if I am willing to be outspoken and order it customized. But honestly.... why do they make it so tough??
Keep up the weather reports--I keep a list of different places in the US that I don't EVER want to live it and NH is moving up to the top of the list! phorsenuf posted photos a few years ago when she was still in NH of the snow up to almost the roof of the house
and that is when NH went on to the list.
GIven the choice I wouldn't live here either!!
DH and I are both originally from MA. And I was always open for moving SOUTH.... but when he told me, six months before our wedding, that we were moving NORTH.... well, I wasn't thrilled.... and here we still are, 19 years later!! I told the kids that they MUST move away after college to a warm climate so we don't have any excuse to keep us here!!
DH and I have been focusing on spending some of our quality time together going to the store and picking out veggies, planning menus, and looking at recipes. Yeah, we are dorks!
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I think that sounds GREAT! I would love some suggestions from DH about what HEALTHIER meals he might enjoy..... that said, I'm a bit of a control freak about my shopping and menus.... so no other help please!!
I've seen what the budget and pantry look like when DH goes shopping!!
Finding will power to resist temptaion is really one of the hardest things we have to learn. Have you all seen the thread on the Community Board about a woman post Weight Loss Surgery that is throwing away her co workers "junk food"? While her actions are extreme and out of line I can empathize with the feelings that she is wrestling with in trying to resist temptations and stick to a healthy plan.
I haven't seen it, but I might go looking for it. Is she doing it because she is too tempted by their foods, or because she wants them to be healthier?
I must admit, I kind of get it (if it is because she wants them healthier). I have a thread here that I have had to just IGNORE because I want to make a comment about healthier eating that might not be appreciated. I mean it with the best of intentions, but try as I might, I can't think of a way to say what I want without sounding SNARKY.... so I'm trying HARD to keep my cyber-mouth SHUT!
Honestly though.... I can't imagine throwing away other people's food because I was tempted.... it ISN'T MY FOOD!! I shouldn't eat it NO MATTER WHAT!!
I use earplugs all the time for the last year or two. DH has a CPAP but still snores and keeps me awake. I am hoping that his weight loss will help that and maybe even eliminate the need for the CPAP.
Weight loss could definitely eliminate the need for the CPAP! That would be great!
I am THOROUGHLY convinced that DH needed a CPAP in the past. This fall I was VERY concerned about his sleeping/breathing. And he was ALWAYS exhausted. He would nap in his chair every weekend.... even if he slept until 11 am that morning and did NOTHING but watch TV. A year ago Christmas day.... it seemed like it was all he could do to stay awake to watch the kids open their gifts that morning. He kept dosing off and I would have to wake him up. It was both scary and ANNOYING as HECK!!
But since his accident and subsequent weight loss, the snoring has stopped and his breathing pattern while sleeping seems much more normal. He still sleeps to much.... he is like a teenager. If I don't wake him up on the weekends, he'll sleep until noon and then stay up until 2 am watching tv. Not particulary conducive to a nice family weekend.
I understand that I am a morning person and he is a night owl.... but sleeping till noon just seems absolutely FOOLISH and immature to me. But I'm ranting now.
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QOTD for Wednesday:
Continuing to think back on the last few weeks:
Is there anything that you have regretted doing or not doing since you started this Jan 1st? Do you plan to make any changes in the coming weeks?
The only regret I might have is that I really let my exercising slide this winter. It started when DH was in the hospitaland things were crazy.... then it was Christmas and DH was home and VNA was coming, and PT was coming....etc. But I didn't get right back on it when I should have. That said, I've gotten back into the "routine" in the past few weeks and things are back on track!!
**Happy Wednesday morning friends! I've just got a few minutes to chat. I was just letting breakfast digest while I caught up here and then I am hitting the TM. Normally Wednesday would be a "Y" workout night, but I have some errands to run, so I will workout here at home today, since I am not working, and then do my errands tonight after I drop DD at the Y.
I had a good workout at the Y last night, but never made it on the rowing machine. There are only two of them and there was a guy and a girl who were taking turns working out on one and just sitting on the other one. I wasn't feeling aggressive enough to ask them to sit somewhere else.... so I just skipped it. NBD, I suppose.
Remember that bout of "tendonitis" I had in my right hand a few weeks ago?? I think it is returning today, in another finger. My middle finger, middle knuckle is swollen and sore today. I'm hoping that maybe I just whacked it on something and I don't remember doing it. It doesn't seem to be progressing as quickly as the pinky finger did.... maybe it won't be as bad. But honestly.... am I supposed to be falling apart at the tender age of 46??
I have a physical scheduled for a few weeks from now. I am startig to make a list of things to get checked out! That must mean I'm old!!
Well.... I need to get moving! TM time... then laundry, empty the dishwasher, make the beds, etc, etc, etc! TTYL.....................P