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[Pooh2]

I am with OP.
Stinky people are tough for me too!

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Oh, also, no anti-vaxxers!

 

[scrhsa]

For real friends it will take a lot for me to find something to say "nope, I'm done". But for nominal/acquaintance type friends, I'll move along/let it die.

Right now what would get me to go would be if they were constantly dumping on my religion (or religion in general) or my world view. I don't care if they don't like either one but lets agree to disagree. I know, and enjoy, quite a few people with differing opinions and its great!

And I have let a friendship go. The woman is a pathological liar, narcissistic, and probably has Munchausens Syndrome. I started to let go when she was trying to manipulate me into letting her stay at my house when my Dad passed away. Even after telling her that I understood that she couldn't get there and she didn't have to come. Plus, while at the funeral telling my brother in law and, whoever else would listen, that I would need looking after because I would get very depressed and my try to kill myself. What was my "nope, I'm done" moment was when she lied about a classmate taking advantage of her at our reunion. It was a complete set up and when I didn't respond the way she liked she kept upping the info and trying to drag me into it by telling me that detectives would be calling me to get my side of the story( we all had lunch together earlier that day).

 

[slpeters]

I will not actively look for evidence that a person is basically uncharitable in spirit, but if a person keeps showing me that (and some people really just won't shut up about it) eventually we just can't be friends.

 

[pattyw]

Did anyone ever go to a friend for a service, not like what they did, go somewhere else and basically lose a friendship? My good friend used to be my hair dresser. I just didn't like how she did my hair. I tried another salon- LOVED it!! I didn't go back to her and our friendship just kind of slowly ended.

 

[PollyannaMom]

people who thrive on drama and being a victim

Agreed, if you’re extreme even if I happen to agree with you, I’m out.

These - I'm easily overwhelmed by "too much" - too much anything - drama, politics, whatever.

It's not that I can't find something to like about most people, and be friendly in small doses, but I can only spend so much time with over-the-top people before I become exhausted.


I don't like bullies or super-entitled people:

 

[tvguy]

A friend is a friend. No matter their politics, religion etc.
I loved reading in Dick Van Dykes autobiography the following caption of him with Walt Disney
"One time we were interviewed and the reporter asked about us being on opposite sides of the political fence. Walt said. 'That has nothing do with our friendship'. I always appreciated that"

 

[mummabear]

Some conspiracy theories are alarm bells for me: Flat-earthers, 9/11 truthers, Holocaust deniers, moon landing deniers.

This ^ also anti vaxxers.
Anyone who is homophobic.
Anyone who pushed their religious views.

 

[smokeyblue]

I can't stand people who use things like spirituality or to excuse their crappy behavior, like they're on a higher plane than the rest of us. These people usually entirely lack the self-awareness to realize what an awful person they are.

 

[ronandannette]

You must not be on Facebook or Twitter. There is daily proof people don't behave in a civil manner out in the world.

I'm not actually, and apparently it does make a difference. Other than the DIS, almost 100% of my contact with people is IRL, and the if the people I know and like or love are expressing themselves on-line in ways I'd believe to be entirely out of character, well, I know nothing of it. I do look at news feeds sometimes and what I read the comments section would curl ones hair, but those people are strangers so it doesn't really affect me.

Well gosh bless you, you are lucky because so Many sadly are now doing it in my world. It is so disturbing. And I don't put up with it and then I have family and people I love giving me the cold shoulder, shunning or worse. People I never heard do it before. Separating into tribes even from family, say what. It's coming about from the amount and acceptance of this kind of veiled or not so veiled talk like this from our infotainment opinion so called "news" and radio shows, social media and cough some of our leaders.

Being in Canada, as a society we're not at the same level of frenzy/despair that seems to be the current climate in the States. We certainly have issues, many of the same issues actually but at a very different scale. It is still possible here to get through most days without the kind of confrontation you describe, IRL at least.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

Being in Canada, as a society we're not at the same level of frenzy/despair that seems to be the current climate in the States. We certainly have issues, many of the same issues actually but at a very different scale. It is still possible here to get through most days without the kind of confrontation you describe, IRL at least.

I typed out a long post going for humor, but decided some people may not take it that way. Suffice it to say, I think people in the US & Canada are more similar than you think. At least as similar as they can be, when you consider people from different regions in both of the countries can be very different.

Don't believe everything you read on social media or hear on biased news networks. Most of us have non-confrontational days. Most problems seem to only exist on social media. They're definitely not a part of my daily life & I live in a densely populated area with people of all races that come here from all over the world.

If (a general) you look for confrontation, you'll find it. I'm sure that's true everywhere.

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

Friends who TRY to sell me stuff. EVERY TIME THEY SEE ME. I was friends with a woman and she and her husband quit their jobs and decided to sell vitamins. EVERY TIME I talked to her, she’d try to sell me some. How are you today? Sounds like you have a cold... you need to try these vitamins. Or sun is really hard on your skin/ hair, oh you need these vitamins. Oh I see you have a new nail polish color! You know what’s really good for your nails, these vitamins. I got so tired of it. We are no longer friends.

 

[disykat]

I actually think stinky is a big one. With my allergies, if you wear patchouli or anything else that sets me off, I'm running away from you while my lungs are still working! That pretty much means we'll never get as far as finding out anything else about each other.

 

[superme80]

Abusive people. I can pretty much get along with anyone. If I don't agree with someone, I usually try to steer the conversation away from something we cannot discuss or debate civilly.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

I have ended friendships because of political differences of opinion--not in a confrontational way, more like just not nurturing the relationship anymore and letting it fade away. Usually, if the two of us had such different ideology, then it was probably taking a lot of effort to maintain a relationship anyway. I lost one relationship with a good friend over something really silly--breastfeeding. She was so disgusted by it that she would actually gag! I always covered and tried to be modest, I think the idea of it disgusted her and she would get grossed out if she knew it was happening. We were in different places in our lives anyway; she was newly divorced and had no kids, I was stuck in a terrible marriage, and she kept trying to convince me to leave my husband and made it obvious that she didn't like him, so then he didn't want me to be around her anymore. I still miss her sometimes and I hope she is doing well.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Anyone who is homophobic.

Yeah, this too.

 

[Floridaman999]

The older I get, the less likely I am to tolerate bull feces. It makes my list of friends pretty short and sweet but the quality is rather high in my opinion. That's what matters to me.

 

[MousetersInc]

The original post cracked me up; that's not where I thought it would be headed.

I might say there are issues that can stop others being friends with you. I'm like Rex, "I don't like confrontations!", like, to the point that it's a character flaw. If I disagree with you I'll happily nod and smile and avoid an argument. As such, I can "get along" with many simply by hiding my true opinions. But there are others who are the opposite, and "can't take walking away for an answer"; if they discover you disagree with them they'll never let it go and never end the argument. Sometimes this can become a level of harassment that you just can't take, and you just have to distance yourself from the friendship.

 

[mom2rtk]

I typed out a long post going for humor, but decided some people may not take it that way. Suffice it to say, I think people in the US & Canada are more similar than you think. At least as similar as they can be, when you consider people from different regions in both of the countries can be very different.

Don't believe everything you read on social media or hear on biased news networks. Most of us have non-confrontational days. Most problems seem to only exist on social media. They're definitely not a part of my daily life & I live in a densely populated area with people of all races that come here from all over the world.

If (a general) you look for confrontation, you'll find it. I'm sure that's true everywhere.

Nailed it.

I think (in general) if you have too much confrontation and division in your daily life you need to:

1) take a hard look at what you (the universal you) might be contributing or
2) change how you spend your days.

 

[MamaBelle4]

I don’t care where you fit on the political or religious scale, but if you’re obsessed with your particular brand of “whatever” to the point it’s all you can talk about, buh bye. I’d rather hang out with a reasonable person with whom I disagree on every topic than one with whom I agree if that second person is a complete blowhard.

It's funny, my dad and I are opposite sides of the spectrum but we can have reasonable discussions. He actually told my brother (who is on the same side of the spectrum as he is) that he'd rather talk to me because he enjoys discussing things and I don't get all bent out of shape when we disagree