Surrogacy for convenience

[mom2rtk]

Apparently Jamie Chung and her husband have welcomed twins by surrogacy. They chose surrogacy becuase pregnancy would hurt her career.

Thoughts?

https://www.buzzfeed.com/larryfitzm...&utm_source=dynamic&utm_campaign=bftwbuzzfeed

 

[dez1978]

I think however someone wants to make a family is none of my business. Would I go that route for convenience? no. But after having 2 c sections and being scared I'll pee everytime I sneeze, I won't judge anyone who does.

Pregnancy is hard and not everyone wants to do that to their bodies. But I also think its a shame that we hold women to this standard. If it were men gained the same amount as their partners during pregnancy, "bouncing back" wouldn't be an expectation.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

Fine with me. With acting, you have to strike while the iron is hot because you never know when your career is over. And she'll very likely be a better mom than Mrs Dugger ever was.

 

[Mrs.AMC]

Her life, her family, her business. Why is it any one else’s to comment on?

 

[_19disnA]

Buzzfeed looks like another of those publications that focus on what various celebrities say or do. Not of interest to me. I don't obsess over celebrities and their lifestyles like some other people apparently do. No idea who she is.

 

[TippyThomas]

My thoughts are that I'm very happy for them.

 

[disykat]

It's weird all the things money can buy, but I can't really say I wouldn't be paying for more of those things if I could afford it.

 

[DisneyJamieCA]

I think however they choose to start their family is up to them and none of my business. So congratulations to them!

It does make me sad, that from a societal standpoint, she’s probably right.

 

[jrmasm]

Don’t care.

 

[punkin]

I don't even know who she is

 

[Mysterian]

Don’t care.

I don't even know who she is

What they said.

If she were having twins of THESE then that would be awesome.

 

[RedAngie]

She has a career??

 

[HopperFan]

My first thought was "who in the world is Jamie Chung?" So I checked out her resume, I think she has overestimated her career. I watched some of the shows she was in - but have no memory of her. What I do have is memories of some other women in the shows, who have had children, and who have maintained their career status.

No one is judging how you choose to have children, there are many ways. I don't understand why she felt the need to make an excuse, it is no one's business. I get she was not pregnant but all she needed to say was they were born via surrogate, end of story. But especially when the excuse is cringy.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

It doesn't matter whatsoever why someone chooses surrogacy. It's not like there's a stamp on surrogacy that says "can only use for XYZ" if someone is willing and able to carry someone else's child for whatever reason that's their business and if someone is willing and able to have someone else carry their child for whatever reason that's their business.

We can't on the one hand be like "my body my choice" and then judge someone who you know says "my body my choice".

 

[LSUmiss]

While I don’t care, or know who she is, I do think it’s kinda selfish & vain to be that concerned about your career or your appearance & think being a mother to twins will be especially difficult for her.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

No one is judging how you choose to have children,

all she needed to say was they were born via surrogate, end of story. But especially when the excuse is cringy.

Why is it cringy, why is it wrong for her to elaborate? Why does she have to hide that fact? That just means you are doing exactly what your above quote said people aren't doing. It's her and her business alone why she did what she did, she's under no obligation to explain but if she feels like disclosing there shouldn't be a "oh no dear that's not something we talk about". We should be normalizing stuff like this, not making it like women aren't allowed to talk about it for fear it makes someone else uncomfortable and that's exactly why you get judgements about decisions. It's also a reason why women go through their lives having miscarriages but not feeling like they can talk about it. A topic such that you are supposed to not discuss openly.

 

[LSUmiss]

It doesn't matter whatsoever why someone chooses surrogacy. It's not like there's a stamp on surrogacy that says "can only use for XYZ" if someone is willing and able to carry someone else's child for whatever reason that's their business and if someone is willing and able to have someone else carry their child for whatever reason that's their business.

We can't on the one hand be like "my body my choice" and then judge someone who you know says "my body my choice".

Well first not everyone agrees with the “my body my choice” idea & even some of us who do, mostly mean it’s not the government’s place to decide on such things. To be fair, I really don’t care what anyone else does but doesn’t mean I might not judge the person.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

Well first not everyone agrees with the “my body my choice” idea & even some of us who do, mostly mean it’s not the government’s place to decide on such things. To be fair, I really don’t care what anyone else does but doesn’t mean I might not judge the person.

Yeah I already saw your other comment so I knew exactly how you feel on this topic. What I was speaking to was not that every single person out there is about my body my choice...clearly. But rather you cannot be of that opinion and yet judge like this. We cannot have protests and rallies and legislation and yet judge like this. If you accept the my body my choice you end up accepting what goes with it. Clearly you do not have the my body my choice affinity..but you were not the audience I was speaking to anyhow.

 

[LSUmiss]

Why is it cringy, why is it wrong for her to elaborate? Why does she have to hide that fact? That just means you are doing exactly what your above quote said people aren't doing. It's her and her business alone why she did what she did, she's under no obligation to explain but if she feels like disclosing there shouldn't be a "oh no dear that's not something we talk about". We should be normalizing stuff like this, not making it like women aren't allowed to talk about it for fear it makes someone else uncomfortable and that's exactly why you get judgements about decisions. It's also a reason why women go through their lives having miscarriages but not feeling like they can talk about it. A topic such that you are supposed to not discuss openly.

There is also a problem with many ppl just seeking attention. Some things can & should remain private. It’s not that we can’t talk about things, but everything is not newsworthy. Idk most women don’t enjoy pregnancy, at least,
not every stage, but it’s a sacrifice you make. And truly asking, is having miscarriages a thing women feel like that can’t talk about? My sister & niece both had a terrible time with infertility. The only reason they didn’t want to talk about them at first was b/c it was too emotionally painful for them but not b/c it was taboo.

 

[BrianL]

I don't even know who she is

She was Gogo in Disney's Big Hero 6 movie and series! She has to be out there fighting crime - no time for pregnancy!



That said, it's really her business, though honestly I think adoption is a better call.