C.Ann, I wish I could live closer to you as well. Unfortunately we have PA between us
I am not so worried about flying alone. Heck most of the flying that I've done in my life has been alone and I just flew to Chicago and back by myself just a week and a half ago. I am nervous about being alone. So when I went to pick my resort to stay at, I intentionally picked one where I knew others would be. Not necessarily that I have to be right by them, but honestly there is something more comforting to me knowing that I could very likely have someone to ride home with from a park at night and the like. Kind of silly sounding I know, but that is how I am.
I used to feel like I would be "left out" until a few people convinced me (one in particular) that I have nothing to worry about and that I will never be alone unless I want to. I didn't go to DISCon last year but I am sure it will be a very true statement for you. I am a very shy person when I first meet people. You can ask those I met when I went to Chicago. They can tell you I am quiet and shy at first. But once I get to know people, I do so much better!!! I realize DISCon will be difficult for me, but I know I won't regret doing it.
I know there is a HUGE list of "unofficial" meets for DISCon and by the number of those I see if you wanted to be with people, trust me it looks like you could find a group to be with every waking moment if you like. I did tell you before (and meant it) that you can hang out with me if you like as well. So as I said, you may not know faces, but you'll at least know a few names when you get down there.
Don't worry about fitting in either. You are a wonderfully kind & dear person with a great sense of humor... I think you'll do just fine
So there is a huge long ramble and I'll end with a tiny prayer that you'll be able to talk yourself into it