marcyleecorgan
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We have both open houses and an appointment app that is like FP+ haha
I will tell DH that, maybe it will make him laugh
I will tell DH that, maybe it will make him laugh
Ours was similar in that we got a copy of our child's schedule (in high school, elem and MS were appointments) so we knew their teachers and the teachers stayed in their rooms and basically had an open house. Hours were from this time to this time, covering both afternoons and evenings for parents that worked 2nd or 3rd shift and you could stop in at your convenienceMakes me really like how our high school and middle school does conferences. Every teacher has a table in the gym and you can go meet anyone you like at your own pace during conference hours. They will print off your child's schedule for you if you are unsure of the names of teachers and provide a map of table locations.
This is how it’s been in middle school. It helps that my kids are in the same grade and sometimes have the same teachers in common. I sit down with their schedules and make a chart- teachers they have in common, teachers we’ve met in the past (so can skip or do a drive by) location of classes etc.- then tackle from there. If my DH or older DD are available we tag team. Generally we manage to hit all twelve classes or at least make an appearance.We don't get individual conferences, we get the night where you follow your kids schedule and each class is 12 minutes. Which is barely enough time for the teacher to introduce themselves and say a little about their class rules etc. There is no time for any individual conversations about my kids in particular. I go to them, and they are certainly efficient (unless you have 2 kids in the same school in which case you have to pick only one kids teachers to meet) but I'm not sure they're really that helpful.
Thank you. Really. I did not expect to hear this, but I appreciate you taking the time to voice this and to share it. I think we parents do a lot, and though we understand our efforts as our duty and do not expect recognition, it is really nice to hear once in a while.All I can add is good for you for going to your child's teacher conferences!
I know that, from your description, it feels like some of your time is being wasted, but I feel that overall your being there is time well spent. It's just good parenting on your part for attending, even though it might not be a particularly efficient use of your time.
My kids are older and in college or out of grad school and I can tell you I use to treat the Parent Teacher conferences like RD.
I would most certainly always get there about 15 minutes or so before the scheduled time and when I was first, the teacher would just start. Sometimes I would get there early and the teachers were already starting to see parents. So next year, or semester, just get there early and maybe you will be in/out.
My poor DH, for the past few years I’ve sent him to HS open house alone. Last year we had 3 kids, so I checked out their schedules, eliminated the teachers their older siblings had, eliminated the ones they had together or at least the same class at a different time, and eliminated gym. I gave him the combined schedule and sent him on his way. I think I have 10 years of HS open houses, and I’m done (DH likes to chat, so he doesn’t mind as much).For parent/teacher in grade school they sent home sheets with lists of preferred times and a space to name siblings. Then the teachers would contact each other with this info and do their best to schedule the kid’s conferences in the same time frame. It worked really well IF you got the forms in day one and IF everyone was paying attention. In five years I think we only had to split them up once. It was real handy the two years they had the same teacher/s.
This is how it’s been in middle school. It helps that my kids are in the same grade and sometimes have the same teachers in common. I sit down with their schedules and make a chart- teachers they have in common, teachers we’ve met in the past (so can skip or do a drive by) location of classes etc.- then tackle from there. If my DH or older DD are available we tag team. Generally we manage to hit all twelve classes or at least make an appearance.
We don’t really have individual conferences in middle school unless there’s an issue. In that case you’d email the teacher or they’d email you and you set something up. I try to keep an eye on my kids grades and push them to handle the situation on their own. So far we haven’t had to have one.
Yup that was what I meant. They've stopped doing parent/teacher conferences at all and have moved to the open house system, which is more efficient but I don't think necessarily better.
We can always call up an individual teacher and set up a meeting if we'd like, but it would never be on an evening and there's no way I could get all 7 teachers to meet with me on the same day, which would make the process of doing it myself pretty complicated schedule wise.
So is it "bad parenting" if you don't attend?
We haven't been to a parent/teacher conference since the kids were in elementary. The MS offers them, I can't remember about the HS (doubtful). The teachers all have our contact information. I would hope if there is an issue we need to address, they'd let us know. If there is no issue, then meeting at a parent/teacher conference is nothing more than ego stroking "Yes, little Jimmy/Suzy is a joy to have in class, you should be proud of how you raised them."
Really? This is what you think of parents who show?*snip*
The last two hours of conferences we do walk up conferences in the gym and parents can go at their own pace. The majority of these parents do not really need to attend because their children are doing just fine and it is an ego boost.
In the Spring we mainly sit there in the gym at throw paper at each other because hardly anyone comes to either the targeted conferences or the walk up.
Wow, really? Our district has them all the way through high school.
Really? This is what you think of parents who show?
We actually had something like that at the school I began teaching in that some teachers used. Parents could sign up online for a timeslot to meet with the teachers that used the online scheduler and then plan out their evening.We had middle school Parent Teacher Conferences tonight.
In our school, the process is super inefficient - it's a sign up sheet outside the individual teacher's classrooms. It's inefficient because teachers don't always cross off who they've seen already, or worse they don't go by the list and just usher in the next family they see outside their classroom. In any event, it's hard to track when you're actually due. In my case, I have multiple teachers to meet so I feel pressure to fit in other subject teachers while I wait for the ones with long lines, but I hesitate to wander off because I don't want to miss being called and then risk losing my chance to speak with them. I am taking time off work so want to grab all of them while I can.
Anyway, all this to say, my one overriding thought tonight was: "I wish they had fastpasses, so I knew when to come back." Forget the importance of a child's education. I kept thinking of fastpasses.
I am not sure if I can make it until my April 2020 trip.
I'm sure you also don't attend your kid's sporting events, since that would be nothing more than ego stroking on your part.So is it "bad parenting" if you don't attend?
We haven't been to a parent/teacher conference since the kids were in elementary. The MS offers them, I can't remember about the HS (doubtful). The teachers all have our contact information. I would hope if there is an issue we need to address, they'd let us know. If there is no issue, then meeting at a parent/teacher conference is nothing more than ego stroking "Yes, little Jimmy/Suzy is a joy to have in class, you should be proud of how you raised them."
Read post #24. It works wonderfully.i can't imagine how this could be effectively managed. it's one thing in elementary when a teacher has a single classroom of students (and maybe one pullout subject period of different kids) to do individual conferences on all of them but in high school? a smallish single period class size of 20 students for a teacher in the normal 6 period instructional day (they get 1 period for prep time) would mean 120 students. to do anything more than what could be more effectively communicated by an email takes what? let's say 20 minutes minimum so even if a teacher could schedule them back to back with not even a minute between starting and stopping one to the next would mean 3 per hour for a total of 40 solid hours of conferencing, that's either more than a week of full time school days off for the students or as in the case of our district-endless early releases.