Disney1fan2002
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- Jun 21, 2002
My BIL was dx'd with lung cancer back in February. He was struggling with shingles pain that he got in December. My sister had a stroke in March that she thankfully recovered from. To say their life has been HELL these past 7 months is a gross understatement. The shingles pain was so unbearable, that my BIL...a rough, tough man of construction for 50 years was reduced to tears on a daily basis. He went to more than one pain clinic and was maxed out on every drug they thought would help him , but nothing touched the pain. He even smoked some marijuana, and that barely took the edge off. 7 months of non-stop pain, plus the stress of a cancer dx, plus the stress of my sister's stroke.
Last week they found the cancer had metastasized to his brain and colon. After only 6 weeks of radiation and chemo (treatment was delayed because of his pain).
They put him in hospice house last Tuesday and gave him a week. I got an update from my sister this afternoon, and they are saying within 72 hours he will be gone.
My sister married him at the age of 21 years old. They have their 40th anniversary coming up in October. She is a strong, independent woman, but I think this may break her. He was never part of the cruise plans, it is her and my 30 yo niece that are joining us.
I want her to enjoy the cruise, but I don't want to seem like I am telling her to forget him. In 3 months, the loss is still going to be fresh.
If you have cruised or know someone who has cruised shortly after losing a loved one, what did you do to help make the cruise about enjoying life again? I know I won't be able to make anything happen for her, she will grieve in her own way and in her own time. I just want to be able to make suggestions that she can either accept or forget.
Last week they found the cancer had metastasized to his brain and colon. After only 6 weeks of radiation and chemo (treatment was delayed because of his pain).
They put him in hospice house last Tuesday and gave him a week. I got an update from my sister this afternoon, and they are saying within 72 hours he will be gone.
My sister married him at the age of 21 years old. They have their 40th anniversary coming up in October. She is a strong, independent woman, but I think this may break her. He was never part of the cruise plans, it is her and my 30 yo niece that are joining us.
I want her to enjoy the cruise, but I don't want to seem like I am telling her to forget him. In 3 months, the loss is still going to be fresh.
If you have cruised or know someone who has cruised shortly after losing a loved one, what did you do to help make the cruise about enjoying life again? I know I won't be able to make anything happen for her, she will grieve in her own way and in her own time. I just want to be able to make suggestions that she can either accept or forget.