Lilsia
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- Feb 17, 2018
I definitely agree that parents should be keeping an eye on their children and I always do that. And as a parent who is always dealing with her child, I thank you for not stepping in when you see a parent doing that because it's super frustrating and not helpful!
But my point was just that I think if we want this "it takes a village" mentality that it needs to go both ways - we need to be willing to help other parents and encourage them as well, not just discipline their kids. How often do we help an overwhelmed parent who is struggling to deal with their children? When we see well behaved children, how often do we go up to them and say "You're doing a great job here!" I just feel like people tend to have a negative outlook on others and have the mentality that parents are lazy and don't know what they're doing and the kids are horrible brats. That viewpoint just makes me sad.
I know what you are saying. I understand that everyone has bad days. If I see that a parent is doing what they can and addressing the situation, then it is a non issue. The problems come in when the child is acting up, being disruptive, running around and getting in the way of others, general not proper behavior in public, and the parent is not paying attention and trying to correct the child. That is when others get annoyed at the parents. I guess the difference in mindsets between us is that I would never expect someone to praise me for doing the right thing(having well behaved children), as you said. This is a huge difference between the generations now. Good behavior was expected of you and you got punished for not doing the right thing. You don't get a reward for doing what you are supposed to. This way of thinking has not worked, it has not created better people, it has made people entitled and self centered and expecting of praise. Kids are not happier now that they get a reward for doing the right thing. Talk to anyone who deals with kids now, and they will say the same thing. Teachers are walking away from their jobs in record numbers because something is going seriously wrong with kids now. The shift in parenting is not for the better and the children are the ones that are paying for it. It is unbelievably sad and alarming what is happening in society now. And it is not because a stranger tells your kid to behave, it is because they have to.