First, I never said anyone EXPECTS my husband to give up his seat to them. Or would assume my husband would. Although now that you mention it, maybe some do. I don’t know. But I never said that.
Second, I never ASKED anyone to do anything. I’ve never asked anyone to wait for the next bus.
As for “I sometimes feel like I wish there were fewer guests in the parks, so lines for rides would be shorter. However, that does not mean I'll tell other people that they should stay home, or that they're endangering their children's welfare by bringing them into a crowded park. They have no obligation to accommodate my feelings on this matter, any more than I'm obligated to accommodate theirs,” if you think that’s anything close to the same thing then you misunderstood me completely. If I had said that my husband wants to sit so no one else should get on the bus before him or with him so he can be have a seat or the whole bus to himself then maybe that would be an argument. I said no such thing.
Obviously you take issue with a man offering you his seat. You view it as sexist. I think that’s a whole other issue. I won’t apologize because my husband politely offers his seat to someone who looks like they need it more. Especially since you seem to have an issue with it in any situation, not just the scenario I mentioned.
Well, I think we're both misunderstanding each other then. Because I literally wrote,
"Personally, I have no issues with anyone offering anyone else a seat. I think it's a lovely gesture, and should be taken in the spirit that it's intended. It's a gift, not an obligation (on either the part of the giver OR recipient). Everyone, on all sides, needs to try to be gracious about it."
That's not at all "having an issue with it in any situation". Nor do I have an issue with "men" (or women) offering me their seat. Where it gets obnoxious is when they won't take a pleasant smile and a "No, thank you," for an answer. Which I assure you, does happen. Though, please believe, I am not accusing your husband of doing this.
I'm just trying to explain why a woman might sometimes say, "Thank you!" and sit, even though she doesn't necessarily need to. Same as, someone else might hesitate to offer their seat up, because they've had bad experiences ("Do I look old!?" "Do you think I'm too weak, just because I'm a woman!?") Or someone else might feel obliged to offer, because they got yelled at for not getting out of their seat when they were young. Everyone's got their reasons for offering, or not offering, and accepting or not accepting.
Also, you did say... "I say wait for the next bus if you have babies. It's not fair to the other people who got seats first."
Which does really sound like you're asking other people to wait for the next bus. Or telling them. Sure, you'd never be so rude as to tell them to their face, but posting it to a message board like this is really the next best thing. You're hoping they'll read it, and then think twice about getting on the bus and making your husband feel obligated to give up his seat.
I understand you're trying to protect your husband from himself. But, this isn't the way to do it. Because there's really very little difference between, "These people should stand at the bus stop holding their babies for another 20 minutes (at minimum!) so my husband doesn't have to get up out of his seat," and "No one should get on the bus before us." You're asking people to inconvenience themselves in order to accommodate your husband (who, truthfully, doesn't
have to get up at all).
Those people with babies aren't being "unfair" to you and your husband. They're not being "unfair" to anyone. They're just trying to get back to their resort.
What's "unfair" is trying to put the burden of your husband's ankle-health on someone who has never even met him (or you).
