Absolutely you can order by the glass or order a bottle to share - whatever you like. The wine pairing can be a lot of wine for someone who doesn't drink much. It's not at all tacky. It's totally up to individual tastes. We had fun last week scrolling through the iPad they give you with all of the drinks. I wanted a glass of champagne to start and they recommended one to me that they thought I would like (I did - very much!). We did the pairing too but they're very good at translating your tastes and what you feel like into the right selections. Even if it's one glass for the whole meal or no alcohol at all, that's up to you. Their job is to help you and they do an excellent job of that with no judgement at all and a great deal of knowledge about what's possible.