12kizuna
Mouseketeer
- Joined
- Mar 17, 2007
Other posters please be nice to me in saying this, but I am finding myself extremely surprised at the amount of people who are trying to convince you to do this.
Don't.
My reasons are similar to that of pearlieq's. I notice a LOT of people who responded that you should do it did so by stating that they would be comfortable with such a situation, or think that it's fine that a 17 and an 18-year old can run around together. Of course, I think it's fine for people that age to explore Disney alone also, but that is not the question at hand here.
The fact of the matter is that you aren't much older than these girls... very close in age, in fact, and you're being put in charge of a minor who you did not invite, and no one ever asked your permission to be put in this situation. They will most likely not see you as an authority figure (as has already been pointed out), and perhaps not exactly on a friend level either. It's not about making rules on when to meet you, the whole purpose of the trip was for you and your DH to take her. If she is going to put up attitude (and it's only been a few years since I was that age myself) and be so rude as to invite someone without your consent, then I say don't take either of them and enjoy the time with your DH without having to worry.
Since I'm pretty sure that wasn't the intent of the trip, don't be pressured or bullied into taking both girls. I suggest keeping your foot down, and explain to them your feelings. Say that you didn't appreciate plans being made without asking you first, and any other fears that you have associated with it. "Maybe next time" is always another answer.
Final line: Do what YOU are comfortable with. Obviously, you are not comfortable, and no good outcome will come from that.
PS: I don't think I could understand from your last post, but would her family be able to pay for her? If not, that even reinforces it. Even if they can, I find it still rude of them to not help you say no to their daughter themselves (unless she's been telling them that you said yes this whole time)..
EDIT: By bullying and pressuring, I didn't mean by ANYONE on the boards, I meant by the girls themselves by being upset about the matter... I just reread and realized how that might have sounded wrong
Don't.
My reasons are similar to that of pearlieq's. I notice a LOT of people who responded that you should do it did so by stating that they would be comfortable with such a situation, or think that it's fine that a 17 and an 18-year old can run around together. Of course, I think it's fine for people that age to explore Disney alone also, but that is not the question at hand here.
The fact of the matter is that you aren't much older than these girls... very close in age, in fact, and you're being put in charge of a minor who you did not invite, and no one ever asked your permission to be put in this situation. They will most likely not see you as an authority figure (as has already been pointed out), and perhaps not exactly on a friend level either. It's not about making rules on when to meet you, the whole purpose of the trip was for you and your DH to take her. If she is going to put up attitude (and it's only been a few years since I was that age myself) and be so rude as to invite someone without your consent, then I say don't take either of them and enjoy the time with your DH without having to worry.
Since I'm pretty sure that wasn't the intent of the trip, don't be pressured or bullied into taking both girls. I suggest keeping your foot down, and explain to them your feelings. Say that you didn't appreciate plans being made without asking you first, and any other fears that you have associated with it. "Maybe next time" is always another answer.
Final line: Do what YOU are comfortable with. Obviously, you are not comfortable, and no good outcome will come from that.
PS: I don't think I could understand from your last post, but would her family be able to pay for her? If not, that even reinforces it. Even if they can, I find it still rude of them to not help you say no to their daughter themselves (unless she's been telling them that you said yes this whole time)..
EDIT: By bullying and pressuring, I didn't mean by ANYONE on the boards, I meant by the girls themselves by being upset about the matter... I just reread and realized how that might have sounded wrong