Paula Sedley-Burke
Proud to believe in Rainbows and Unicorns...
- Joined
- Nov 20, 2008
As the mother of a child with autism I was touched by your story. You did the right thing by checking with the mother first before offering the child something. That should be done with any child. If the mother was worried about undoing months of work she would have said no. Depending on the level of meltdown with my son, nothing is lost or gained by trying to reason with him. We have given in at times with no harm done. The battle with the child is much easier without a hundred judgemental eyes staring. Even parents of typical kids give in sometime just to "shut the kid up" (for lack of better words) in a public setting.
What you did was sweet and kind. That mother is probably still so grateful for the kind stranger with the Mickey. Don't let naysayers discourage you from acting from your heart in the future.
Thank you! I couldn't sleep last night I was so upset by the comment of pp. I know I don't have a child a much sad situ for me and DW because we could not adopt due to my health ( not oddly enough because we are a same sex couple lol ) and I don't pretend to know what it's like to be a parent of any child. All I saw was a mother in a situation of no return and I wanted to help. I did look for her guidance knowing this was a new arena to me. but what I didn't understand was why other parents more experienced than I were being so intolerant. If I felt for her and that poor dear boy so upset, so out of control in his own mind but not possessing the ability to reason himself back to a safe place. Why could they not see what I saw? Why do others judge you so?