Most of the time I don't care. More often I look at a younger co-worker driving a new SUV, eating leftovers from dinner out last night, and talking about an expensive upcoming vacation, and I think, "You can't be saving enough." Obviously, I keep my mouth shut.
Yeah, it happens. People save and don't get to enjoy the fruits of their labor; however, I'm in my 50s now, and -- like the OP -- I've lost a few friends. But only a few. The vast majority of the people I know are still alive and doing fine.
Yes, balance is a good word when it comes to saving and financial planning. One thing that makes "balance possible" -- something I'm surprised hasn't been mentioned yet:
One of the best ways to find "balance" is to start saving young. I'm sure you've seen those calculations: If you start saving in your early 20s, you need to save relatively little each month to retire rich; whereas, if you wait only a couple years, you must put way a good bit more each month to reach the same goal. If you start saving while compound interest is on your side, saving is a whole lot easier.
I'll add something to your comment that we're all one illness away from an emergency: We shouldn't assume that we'll be able to work until 62, 65, or whatever. I know more than a few people who've been laid off /unable to re-enter the professional world at the same pay level. I read somewhere that 1/4 of all Americans will leave the work force at a time not of their own choosing. That is, they'll leave because of a lay-off or because of an illness. Another reason to front-load your retirement savings.
I have both a pension (well, I'm a year away from fully earning it) and a 401K.
The pension is great in that I can't "outlive my money", but it has some shortcomings:
- I earned it (well, will have earned it) by staying with the same employer for 30 years. Younger people don't stay in the same job /companies go out of business. If you leave the company after 10 or 15 years, you either get nothing or you get a vastly reduced amount.
- My pension is tied to MY life. If I live to be 102, I will win; however, it's possible that I'll retire and live only a couple years -- and, if I am unfortunate in this way, I can find some comfort in leaving my 401K to my children, but I can't leave them my pension. So, in this way, a pension is a gamble just like other forms of retirement plans.
- Pensions are typically attached to relatively low-paying jobs. It's a trade-off: you'll never get a big paycheck, but we'll invest for you, and you'll have a guaranteed income stream in retirement.
- Pensions come with the "is it secure" worry. Consider Detroit.
Yes, since you cannot know how many years you will live (and so many other details), it's a gamble -- but I do think outiving one's savings is more common than dying young /never enjoying retirement.
The best thing you can do to reduce the possibility of a bad outcome: Inform yourself. Stay on top of your finances, check your balances often, and be realistic about your needs. Personally, I'm kinda surprised at how little attention most of my co-workers pay to their retirement savings. One of my co-workers told me last year (just before I retired) that our pension is less than our paycheck! Yeah, I knew that. I know -- down to the penny -- what my pension is expected to pay.
Disagree. Both retirement and education are worthwhile goals, and you should work to fund both -- if you start early and live modestly, this is possible.
If it comes down to making choices, kids can start at community college and trim their bills in any number of ways. Failing to save for them AT ALL just puts them behind the 8-ball and gives them a poor start in life.
I can relate to that, but consider that people in those days lived differently: 2-bedroom house, no air conditioning, no eating out, one car per family, hanging the wash out on the line, canning your own vegetables. It's hard to compare that lifestyle to our more modern life.
And if the state's taking care of retirement, your friend faces the same issue as my pension: if I die young, I lose what's been put away for me.
What you describe may be a better option in that it removes the need for self-discipline, but it's still a gamble.
I helped my grandmother in her old age: I did heavy cleaning that she couldn't manage, and I drove her places -- but she had her own money.
I expect the same situation in my old age.
Two incomes can be a blessing or a curse:
- Two can allow you the "balance" many people have discussed here; that is, the ability to save and still enjoy vacations, etc.
- Two can also allow you to increase your lifestyle to the point that you'd be lost if one spouse looses a job.
Nah, I think it's because it's so easy to borrow these days. I'm sure you've heard people say, "If you're going to borrow, you might as well have what you want." I think it's just so easy to say, "If I'm borrowing for school anyway, I'm going to live in a nice apartment instead of a dorm, and I'm going to enjoy a spring break trip."
Final thoughts: Personally, we've planned our retirement finances in several stages: A paid-for house, money in the bank, money invested, my pension, health insurance, and a small-but-effortless income stream. Don't count on any one item.