ford91exploder
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- Jan 30, 2009
We had a thread on here, years ago, about the bad gifting of a MIL. remember it? LOL
I'm going to say I have not been insulted by a gift, but I have been disappointed. One year, at Christmas, I got a flannel nightgown and a 'muumuu' type robe...from Walmart. That's it...nothing but a little bit of candy (seriously, it was a candy cane, a few Kisses, and a couple of those mini Hershey mix bars) and an orange in my stocking. I was 15, but still... That was it. Two presents to unwrap, that cost my dad maybe $20.
My dad's girlfriend's kids lived with us. The younger ones (elementary school age) got a ton of toys and clothes. All sorts of things that kids enjoy. Stockings bulging with toys and candy. I was happy for them, because, hey, kids and Christmas. The oldest (2 years older than me)...she got a dozen new outfits, and a whole bunch of houseware items (pots n pans, dishes,etc) PLUS she got several records, a record player, money, the usual hair/body type gifts, books, and a lot more, including a bulging stocking of candy and gift cards.
It took a good 4 hours to open gifts. I had to sit there and watch them open all their stuff. My dad said he couldn't do much for me that year, and I understood. But having to sit there watching just broke my heart.
My 16th birthday, I received nothing; same with my 17th. Not even a card. My dad wasn't even around (long haul truck driver) on both, and he didn't even try to call to wish me happy birthday. Those kids birthdays that same time frame (2 in August, one in June) had parties and cakes, and cards and presents, and dad and his gf made the effort to come home in time for their birthdays. (She was with him on the road; the oldest kid...senior in hs/college frosh, me a sopho/junior) raised the younger two for 2 years.)
Insulted, no. Disappointed and bitter, yes.
DH's bday is right before Christmas; his siblings would get gifts on his bday so they wouldn't be jealous; and his bday gifts counted as part of his Christmas gifts. His sister's bday is in August, and her bday gift was always school clothes.
Been there, It hurts when a parent takes out their bad feelings for their Ex on the Kids from that Marriage, You grow up feeling unwanted.