Work or quit

[DCLMP]

As a five year cancer survivor who currently works in a setting with leaders I don;t respect, I say family and experiences over work, but, it all depends on your finances. I just put my mother in hospice today; I'm living large for the rest of my life and retiring in June at 65. I have had enough. Mom always wanted to see Japan, but now it;s too late. WORST DAY OF MY LIFE TODAY. She has a DNR.

Go have fun. Some people want to put off traveling until they retire, but there are no guarantees your health will cooperate.

 

[DCLMP]

Work...I like vacation.

It's not always worth it if you are miserable. I had a job with 6+ weeks of vacation time, but I was miserable. I spent every day counting down to the next vacation. Now I have a job I like and I work mostly from home, but I only have 2-3 weeks vacation. It's fine I'd rather vacation less than be miserable 45 weeks a year.

 

[fly girl]

Dd is 12. DH works 12s Sat - Mon and I work Mon-Fri 11 to 8. It is so crappy not seeing him. The money is nice, but sacrificing family time is not. Ugh, Disney is just not that important.

You have your answer. It’s the leap that is scary.

I made that leap a while back. Miss it, but don’t regret it.

 

[slo]

I’m going to piggyback on my previous post…

When I closed my store I found a job that allowed me to work less hours and better hours so I could work and still be with my family.

My advice is…before quitting, try and find something that’s less hours and easier for you to be with your family unless you want to be at home 100% of the time, which is a great decision if you can and do want to do that.

Good luck

 

[Starport Seven-Five]

Dd is 12. DH works 12s Sat - Mon and I work Mon-Fri 11 to 8. It is so crappy not seeing him. The money is nice, but sacrificing family time is not. Ugh, Disney is just not that important.

Is there not an option for a more normal shift? Even if it means a different employer or even a different line of work. It doesn't seem like work itself is the problem... those hours are just crap for work life balance.

 

[TipsyTraveler]

For me personally there is no way that my husband is home Tuesday through Saturday and I'm working the opposite shift for a Disney vacation. Not remotely worth it to me. If you have to do it to make bills or put food on the table then you do what you have to, but I'm not making that sacrifice for a vacation. But everyone has to make a decision of what works for their family and what they value. I value day to day time with my husband. YMMV.

Is it a possibility to find a different job with a different schedule that leaves you more family time? I know that's easier said than done and I don't know what you do for a living so I don't know how feasible that option is.

This is my answer, basically. The foundation of my family comes first, and I’m not going to spend most of the year apart from them so we can see each other for a couple of weeks on vacation.

I’d be finding a different job or taking cheaper vacations.

 

[nw6675]

I was a SAHM for a very long time so I'm gonna be biased and say stay home to enjoy your family if that is what your heart is tugging you to do.

Only thing I would do differently is find something part time mid day, maybe temp work with your employer or similar just so you can jump back in later on without drawing venom from other people.

The one thing I was not prepared for is how horrible people, in particular other women, treated me when I was trying to rebuild a career after being home. The viterol was quite a shock and it wasn't from men, like at all. When I would interview women my age who chose to work and Millenial age young women acted like gatekeepers and denied entry, it was so obvious. As soon as I head the question, "Soooooo I see you weren't working from years X through Y, what were you doing?" I knew they had an axe to grind. They were also awful that I was a secretary at a school district as a re-entry job, "Why were you doing this?" So much for women having choices. I could afford to stay home and wanted to do so and I did, that didn't justify the dehumanization I experienced. At any rate, I don't regret a moment but if I knew I would have done part time at maybe a CPA firm or something as a placeholder.

I have this issue. I don't want a career - gave that up years ago to be with DD. But even finding something easy and entry level is hard as a Gen X with a gap.

It's not always worth it if you are miserable. I had a job with 6+ weeks of vacation time, but I was miserable. I spent every day counting down to the next vacation. Now I have a job I like and I work mostly from home, but I only have 2-3 weeks vacation. It's fine I'd rather vacation less than be miserable 45 weeks a year.

This. The day we got back from Disney last week I was planning the next vacation. I told DH I HAD to have something to look forward to.

Is there not an option for a more normal shift? Even if it means a different employer or even a different line of work. It doesn't seem like work itself is the problem... those hours are just crap for work life balance.

It's been hard as Gen X. I have an extensive resume that I've tried to scale back on paper. I don't want my old career life. Just something remote that has no stress lol.

 

[Magical2017]

There is a lot to consider. Even if most of the work money goes towards vacation, are you still able to contribute to retirement? Does your work offer other benefits that would have an impact on the future? Do you want to work for pay/outside the home at all, or would a reduction in hours work best?

 

[nw6675]

There is a lot to consider. Even if most of the work money goes towards vacation, are you still able to contribute to retirement? Does your work offer other benefits that would have an impact on the future? Do you want to work for pay/outside the home at all, or would a reduction in hours work best?

Great thoughts. It is all fluff income. But we like the fluff when we get to use it if that makes sense. Dh makes great income, plus military retirement and VA disability so that covers our living and retirement.

 

[Kimkimba]

I already would have quit. I’ve been poor and a SAHM when I unexpectedly had to quit my job due to my dd’s health at birth. My corporate job wasn’t willing to work with me (I wanted to work at home part time). It was the best 15 years of my life. We struggled financially for awhile, but my kids, my husband, and I all really loved having me home.

Time truly does fly. You don’t get that back.

 

[nw6675]

I already would have quit. I’ve been poor and a SAHM when I unexpectedly had to quit my job due to my dd’s health at birth. My corporate job wasn’t willing to work with me (I wanted to work at home part time). It was the best 15 years of my life. We struggled financially for awhile, but my kids, my husband, and I all really loved having me home.

Time truly does fly. You don’t get that back.

You get me

 

[princesscinderella]

I definitely think you should see it you could scale back to maybe part time. If that’s not an option at your current job then quitting may be the answer. The next six years with EK are going to fly by take the time with her you won’t regret it even if it mean less WDW vacations. One of my kids is tired of Disney and really doesn’t want to go much anymore.

 

[nw6675]

I definitely think you should see it you could scale back to maybe part time. If that’s not an option at your current job then quitting may be the answer. The next six years with EK are going to fly by take the time with her you won’t regret it even if it mean less WDW vacations. One of my kids is tired of Disney and really doesn’t want to go much anymore.

I read this and thought...how do they know EK. then I realized it was you posting

 

[Karin1984]

Quit this job, but do look for another job that fits better with the rest of your family. Not necessarily to earn extra money for vacation, but also that working enriches your life.

Vacation is nice, but does it equal family time year round?

 

[PollyannaMom]

I was a SAHM for a very long time so I'm gonna be biased and say stay home to enjoy your family if that is what your heart is tugging you to do.

Same! - I left corporate banking when DS was born. There were financial cutbacks for a while, but they were worth it. After he was in school, I started working part time, and we had more fun money again.

No career decision has to be permanent - embrace the seasons of your life.

Dd is 12. DH works 12s Sat - Mon and I work Mon-Fri 11 to 8. It is so crappy not seeing him. The money is nice, but sacrificing family time is not. Ugh, Disney is just not that important.

That schedule would do me in too!

And if I remember correctly, you weren't even that excited leading up to your last trip, right? Maybe it's time for a new, slower-paced adventure.

Great thoughts. It is all fluff income. But we like the fluff when we get to use it if that makes sense. Dh makes great income, plus military retirement and VA disability so that covers our living and retirement.

One more checkmark in the quit column! You can always do some volunteer work if you find you want to.

 

[ronandannette]

This is my answer, basically. The foundation of my family comes first, and I’m not going to spend most of the year apart from them so we can see each other for a couple of weeks on vacation.

I’d be finding a different job or taking cheaper vacations.

I went back to work because I had to; financial ruin hit us unexpectedly and we panicked. I wish we’d tried harder to find another way. There’s a million regrets about how different things might have been as I juggled my child’s tween/adolescent years and the final years of caretaking elderly loved ones, under the tyranny of a high-pressure (albeit very well paid) job.

There is no “having it all”, there really isn’t, and everything has an opportunity cost. My advice to anyone, in hindsight, is to decide what sacrifice will be the least profound, in the long run.

 

[nw6675]

A friend just messaged me that I was too intelligent to post my question. But seriously, I enjoy the responses and like seeing others thoughts on it.

 

[brockash]

You get me

You already have your answer. You want to quit...just run it by the other ppl. in your life that it may affect and be done with it.

 

[White Cat]

I would not quit that job.

 

[Magical2017]

Great thoughts. It is all fluff income. But we like the fluff when we get to use it if that makes sense. Dh makes great income, plus military retirement and VA disability so that covers our living and retirement.

Honestly, if you do not need the income, I would look at ways to travel for less. Someone here mentioned 10x Travel Insiders so I looked it all up. We were very skeptical but after the first trip where we used points and miles to travel, we were sold. It is free to join the FB group and take the course. We do not earn what many others in the group earn because some have businesses (first class all over the world). We just don't have big expenses. Just our regular expenses on a card and paying it off each month is all we do.