Well my mom did not get her surgery yesterday. An emergency came in and paused everything. Thankfully, my youngest was reading between the lines when speaking with doctors/nurses. She thought that by the way everyone was talking that it really wouldn't happen. My oldest showed up in the afternoon and set up office so she could work but still be there. My two went out for coffee and the youngest relayed what had been going on. Told her older sister that she had to stay until the call was officially made at 9pm. She felt that if nana had time alone to sit and think about it she would back out. Anyway, 9pm rolls around and there was no call from the surgery dept.....9:30, still no call. Finally at 9:50 the unit nurse called surgery to ask what was happening. I have to say I found that a tad annoying....they had to have known at least a little earlier that it wasn't a go. We were all waiting and my mom had not eaten since dinner the night before.
One interesting thing that did happen yesterday though. There were a couple of doctors doing rounds and one of them got trapped into a conversation with my mom (they ask a question and she goes off on a long story that is not really related) about her blood cancer and the hematologist she had gone to. The doctor gave my DD the names of two hematologists in the hospital and said go back to the GP and ask for a new referral. In the conversation my DD is listening and realizes that my mom has totally misunderstood, or just didn't listen, to what the first hematologist had told her....DD took her to that appointment. After the DR left the room DD says to her that what she said was not what had happened. My mom got angry and said that oh yes it was. DD then says I was there, I know what he said. My mom then got quiet and said oh yes. They talked about it and DD told her what the DR had explained. My mom was then quiet and finally said, I guess I misunderstood. So where that goes from here....I have no idea.
The last few days I'm realizing that my youngest is a lot more like me than I realized. She has really stepped up with all this. She sat there all day yesterday without a complaint and when she got home last night she immediately asked me what time she should go back this morning. Then we got into the stories of the day and she totally vented all the frustrations.....just like me.
Thanks all...for letting me vent it all here! Writing it all feels like true purging.