In re: the afternoon tea...are you talking about this one?
https://disneyland.disney.go.com/dining/disneyland-hotel/afternoon-tea/
I remember when it came out, they said there were vegan options available (but that you had to specify when booking so they could make sure the kitchen made them up for you). It's been a little while since it debuted, so I can't remember the details I heard, but it sounded potentially interesting--like something I'd love to do with my sister, who lives in the area & likes to go out to eat and would definitely appreciate sharing that sort of treat with me. Let us know how he likes the vegan options on any/all special meals you guys have...I know they exist, in theory, but for the most part, we don't get feedback on the boards about vegan options for most of the meal packages, only the super popular ones, like Fantasmic.
Yes, that's the one. I heard back from Special Diets after I emailed with Steakhouse 55 Afternoon Tea specifically mentioned in my header. I was told they have a vegetarian option on all the table-service menus, including Afternoon Tea, that can "usually" be made vegan. Basically the same response I received the first time I emailed, with the inclusion of the comment that directly referred to tea. So I am keeping the reservation and hope it will be suitable for my son.
Only 9 more days until we are sitting down to the tea - very excited! And will report back on vegan findings