I just wanted to let everyone know that I finally got this worked out. I had to have the cordinator email a confirmation for me dropping off the blankets. I forwarded that to a manager at the Give a Day program. Then aobut a week later I got an email saying that each of our party members would be given the fastpasses.
It took a lot of time and talking to get someone to agree to this. I thought it was so ridiculous because we had wanted the fastpass option from the beginning, which I had told them, and those are FREE for them. I am just so glad that it all worked out in the end and that Disney held up their end of the bargain. I hope everyone else with issues gets them sorted out too!