Sandra said "WHEW! I am soooo pleased that this thread stayed *nice*, good Disney fashion! I am thrilled one ridiculous post didn't spoil the bunch! *Venting* is okay, but save it for the debate boards. This is a nice wholesome family board where was like to support each other! *Vent* away ~ but be nice. Sandra"
I would suggest you reread the thread then. Renee asked an opinion and I gave mine. I never said not to go on trips without the hubby. Nor did I ever say not to spend one on one time with the kids without the spouse. That is an assumption that so many of you have read into my post. And for that, so many of you have lambasted me. Actually quite the opposite is true. I believe you should "date" each of your children at least once a month, one on one. And there isn't a thing wrong with spending time with friends out for the evening or the weekend away. That is healthy. What is not healthy to your marriage is telling him that "since you don't like it there anyway, I will just take the kids and go without you this time and you do whatever you want to do". That is a surefire way to sow ******* into your marriage. It tells the husband that the pecking order places the children above him and he will grow to resent the time you spend with the children. He may tell you that it is fine, but it will not be.
But I have learned something from all of this Sandra, according to what you are saying "on anything but the debate board, don't give an honest answer, give the answer the person wants to hear". Does that about sum up your feelings