I also got that vibe. IF that’s the case, I hope the OP will keep in mind that 1) it’s not a competition with the other grandparents and, 2) it is important to their daughter, for whatever reason, that she get to tell them in person. They can either embrace that and do their part to help their daughter have this special moment she’s envisioned, or they can “make a thing” of it, which will only serve to sour the moment. Frankly, this is a situation where it’s really not about them as much as it is about the baby and new parents, so I would be deferring to their wishes regardless of my feelings in the interest of keeping this a happy occasion. And, FTR, my feelings would probably be to feel pretty darn special that my daughter wanted to include me in-person for what she perceives as an important moment.Ok, I may be way off here, but it kind of sounds like you’re wondering if it sounds equitable that your daughter’s in-laws will be told first via phone call from your son-in-law and you two will have to wait until you get to the hospital.
Not trying to be a Negative Nancy , but if that’s the case, I can totally understand feeling a little sad to have to wait a while.
That sounds lovely! And fun!My son called us. When I found out we took ny parents to a fancy restaurant and the opened a gift showing boy or girl. We all thought is was a boy lol
No that is not the case at all! My daughter wants to tell us in person and we LOVE that idea!!! If that means my SIL’s parents know first via telephone, that is perfectly ok with us. We just don’t want anyone to spoil the surprise for us.Ok, I may be way off here, but it kind of sounds like you’re wondering if it sounds equitable that your daughter’s in-laws will be told first via phone call from your son-in-law and you two will have to wait until you get to the hospital.
Not trying to be a Negative Nancy , but if that’s the case, I can totally understand feeling a little sad to have to wait a while.
That’s exactly what I think will happen in our situation as well.Our son called us, but it was a schedule C-section, so no surprise. He and our DIL wouldn't give us any details other than everyone was doing fine. No idea the gender or the name until we went to the hospital to meet our Granddaughter.
I’m curious, why wasn’t that a good idea? That’s how we did it when our kids were born and I don’t have any regrets.As another poster mentioned, the important thing is to be kept informed as to health of mother and baby. Since the C-section is scheduled, you can say prayers or send good vibes or whatever when the time is near.
With their first baby, our DS and DDIL wanted their delivery to be private time for them. They didn’t tell anyone when they went to the hospital. Afterwards, they realized that wasn’t a great idea. Live and learn.
I’m curious, why wasn’t that a good idea? That’s how we did it when our kids were born and I don’t have any regrets.
No, lol, my first labor and delivery was horribly traumatic, actually, but notifying people that I was in labor wouldn’t have changed that. You said “live and learn” like they had made some obvious mistake and I couldn’t figure out how it would matter one way or the other, that’s why I asked.It was a difficult labor and sweet baby had health issues. It caught everyone off guard and they wished they had gone in with everyone already onboard for moral support and for other backup that was needed. I’m glad you had a good experience, Tipsy Traveler. Life throws curve balls sometimes.