My husband can do what he wants on mother’s day. I’m not his mother.
If he wants to treat me extra special, great!
But there’s no expectation.
I have never expected any special consideration from my DH on Mother's Day, and he expects nothing extra from me on Father's Day, however we somehow manage to make the day very special. When my kids were younger (DH is nto their bio dad, but raised them) he made sure they were able to make the day special, and that was dependant on what the plans were for our entire family. I did the same for him on logistics og having us all Father's Day. I helped th kids do something, even if they wanted to work on why Buddy was so special to them.
Now that the kids are grown adn out of the house DH has taken a larger role in Mother's Day for some reason. He feels I am the matriarch of a large and sometimes motley crew of people who look to me as their Mom, Nana, Auntie etc, and he does more than he ever did. As do I for him. He took on a bunch of people who were never related to him, added a few more in just because he felt they needed him, (They do) and has managed to become a Patriach of our 'Ohana.
The adults in our family do so much to show both of us how special we are on our special days, but he and I facilitate a lot of the logistics.
This sentiment from men pisses me off. It is disrespectful and lazy. You are the mother of his children and you deserve recognition.
I think this is a strong statement. My DH always said I was not his Mother and he meant it. I am not. He is far from lazy or disrespectful, and honestly I think that how a man raises the children under his Wings and how he reaches them to care for the women in his life means more than shopping for flowers, chocolates, or any other trapping that Mother's Day often entails.
FTR: I have a DD, two DDIL, and a woman who is a DD in my heart. I buy them something just from me every Mother's Day. These women are part of the reason Mother's Day is so special for me, and that reason has nothing to do with children. It is how they impact my life personally.
WIth all this said, my DD has arranged to round up most of our 'Ohana and get them all together at my favorite Brunch spot. It is over an hour away on a busy yard work day, but you know.....it's Mother's Day! LOL!