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I honestly thought you were trying to be funny and meant here on Disboards! I think I need a vacationThank god they aren't a thing here.
I honestly thought you were trying to be funny and meant here on Disboards! I think I need a vacationThank god they aren't a thing here.
What I think a lot of the adults against them don't understand is they're basically expected now, so not doing them isn't the norm for quite a lot of kids today.
Totally agree. Too much over the top about too many things these daysI agree. Too much stress. It's not like a marriage proposal Its' a dance. Will the student be disappointed when the promposal ended up better than the actual wedding proposal? To me there is so much over the top these days.
It doesn't leave much for a person to be excited about. Could you imagine if your marriage proposal doesn't measure up to, or exceed your prom proposal?
Yep, that.
The ship has sailed. Get on board or get out of the way. I feel sorry for the young men having such a high level of expectation put on them. For some boys, just asking is hard enough. Knowing their performance is being evaluated by the internet would suck the fun right out of it. Some are just better suited to public showy things than others.
Any adult who's contemplating marriage who would seriously entertain the thought that they're "let down" by their marriage proposal because it doesn't contain the requisite bells and whistles of their promposal probably needs some time to consider if they're either mature enough to be contemplating such a serious commitment or if they're even interested in their mate enough to be considering spending their life with them.
My son is outgoing but not the flashy public speaking type, but the lady he was dating obviously was. He had arranged for a carriage pick them up from a restaurant they had met at for drinks and take them to the Houston Zoo after it had closed. There was private dinner for the two of them by the reflection pool after which he asked her to marry him. Per him her response was, "This is really nice but I expected you to ask me around more people, so yes as long as you ask me again at the party next weekend." She gave him the ring back so he could surprise her at the party. She was surprised. He didn't go.
Sadly people do compare the proposal to thier preset expectations, but both parties need to be mature enough to recogize what is a priority for them. DS realized the "show" was not for him and it would never work. I am sure the beautiful lady he left found her showy prince charming.
Clearly they were incompatible. He dodged a bullet there.
Do these seem like the most ridiculous things to anyone else?
Tell your son that was an amazing proposal! Well, I'm sure you already have, but it was impressive. Some lady is going to be so lucky someday.My son is outgoing but not the flashy public speaking type, but the lady he was dating obviously was. He had arranged for a carriage pick them up from a restaurant they had met at for drinks and take them to the Houston Zoo after it had closed. There was private dinner for the two of them by the reflection pool after which he asked her to marry him. Per him her response was, "This is really nice but I expected you to ask me around more people, so yes as long as you ask me again at the party next weekend." She gave him the ring back so he could surprise her at the party. She was surprised. He didn't go.
Sadly people do compare the proposal to thier preset expectations, but both parties need to be mature enough to recogize what is a priority for them. DS realized the "show" was not for him and it would never work. I am sure the beautiful lady he left found her showy prince charming.
Isn't that peer pressure? Isn't that what we as parents are supposed to be nagging our children against?
"If Jimmy jumps off a bridge, will you jump off a bridge too?"
This is ridiculous. Do it or don't do it - but not doing it should ALWAYS be an option. And not one that is looked down upon.
Totally agree. Too much over the top about too many things these days
Isn't that peer pressure? Isn't that what we as parents are supposed to be nagging our children against?
"If Jimmy jumps off a bridge, will you jump off a bridge too?"
This is ridiculous. Do it or don't do it - but not doing it should ALWAYS be an option. And not one that is looked down upon.
My son is outgoing but not the flashy public speaking type, but the lady he was dating obviously was. He had arranged for a carriage pick them up from a restaurant they had met at for drinks and take them to the Houston Zoo after it had closed. There was private dinner for the two of them by the reflection pool after which he asked her to marry him. Per him her response was, "This is really nice but I expected you to ask me around more people, so yes as long as you ask me again at the party next weekend." She gave him the ring back so he could surprise her at the party. She was surprised. He didn't go.
Sadly people do compare the proposal to thier preset expectations, but both parties need to be mature enough to recogize what is a priority for them. DS realized the "show" was not for him and it would never work. I am sure the beautiful lady he left found her showy prince charming.
Teenage years are filled with the exploration of conforming/not conforming with your peer group. Every choice to conform isn't inherently a negative one, deserving of criticism for choosing to participate. I mean some choose to go through life as a rebel not only without a cause, but also without a clue. I don't happen to think that's a noble path either.
I can't help but notice that all of the criticisms of doing a promposal make leaps to the extreme, the OTT, the public displays, the exorbitant expense. I don't think that applies to a good portion of these promposals that take place, so I don't see the need for the negativity for something that you're not required to participate in, probably wouldn't even know about unless you know one of the participants -- and even then it's not a certainty you'd know about it, let alone witness it
You say, do it or don't and not doing it shouldn't be looked down upon. Why should choosing to do it be viewed any different? You're not being asked to participate, watch or pay for a thing -- why should a bunch of adults have the ability to judge and shame kids who choose to participate in this harmless activity?
Clearly they were incompatible. He dodged a bullet there.
Tell your son that was an amazing proposal! Well, I'm sure you already have, but it was impressive. Some lady is going to be so lucky someday.
Bummer that it didn't work out, but it's for the best, I'm sure. I can't believe his intended didn't appreciate the care and thought that went into that proposal.