flexsmom - You were wondering if VB was for your family. Here is my experience from last week.
my family just got back from 5 nights in vero and we booked at the 7 month window. Right at the 7 month window, but got what we wanted right away. We are a family of 4 with a 10 and 12 year old. We got a great 1 BR, bigger than our usual 1BR at BWV. In my opinion there was plenty to do. There is a big schedule of activities everyday from crafts, to small kids activities, to teen plans and longer 4 hour outings. some are free and some cost money. We did some crafts, games, treasure hunts and I did the wine tasting class. Would like to try Kayaking, biking and kids snorkel ears, possibly surfing and cell painting next time.
We enjoyed some of each kind, but found each day we went to the beach and boogie boarded. (rented one for $9 the first day, then drove to CVS and bought one) then swam in the pool, cooled off in the room and ate lunch and then swam again. in between we did some of the activites, but basically really enjoyed the beach, and some family time in the room playing monopoly. We aren't lay out in the sun people, we aren't super sport people either, but we all get in the water and are active together.
I thought the beach was great! we tried to see the shuttle launch, but obviously didn't. As far as hurrican damage, things seemed in good repair, but I could see places on the beach (from a long walkwe took) that appeared not be be repaired (non disney site) and trees at VB resort that I wondered if they had been damaged by the cut limbs. But all in all a lovely well kept place. Having never been there before things looked great.
We started out with 4 nights in WDW, but I think the VB trip was the highlight of our trip. Something new and different. I would definately think 5 nights would be great. We did alot, but also relaxed. And for us after being gone for 9 nights we were then ready for home. If anyone has specific questions, let me know and I will try to answer them. flexsmom I hope this helps you.