alicia1506
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Aug 26, 2011
so normally, i'm a pretty even tempered, quiet, happy with life kind of girl. if things go wrong, i develop a plan, and i fix them, or i fix my outlook or whatever it takes to make it good again.
but these last few weeks have just been full of wrong.
i have been sick. really sick. in hospital, doped up on painkillers & morphine, cannot function kind of sick. my body is not working properly and specialists are having fun poking & prodding and sending me for test after procedure after test. i'm weak and sick and worn out.
i have had sick days before. we all have. and i've had a medical certificate for every single absence. each time, it's been something legitimate like laryngitis or a broken leg or a stomach flu where you can't get out of bed for 2 days straight etc. however, with this newfound illness, i have had 10 days off work in the last 3 weeks. medical certificates and specialist letters backing up each incidence, and i have been fully open with my work about what is going on & what is wrong & how it is affecting me.
today my boss's boss calls me into his office. he's concerned that i am bad for morale. it's the busiest season at work for us, from feb - june and i'm not pulling my weight in the team. others are covering for me and that's unacceptable. they know i'm legitimately sick, but they want assurances that i'm not going to get sick again, and i have to commit to being a team player.... or....
yeah. they didn't say it out loud. but it was implied. be here, or find yourself a new job. and i wish i could but i need the regular income. i need the stability of a regular job that i'm fabulous at. i'm highly skilled in my field. hugely experienced and credentialled and i'm not boasting... i'm good. very good. but because of this issue, i've been essentially told that if i have more sick leave, i'm on thin ice...
ugh. i'd think they'd be more understanding of someone experiencing major medical issues, under the care of 2 specialists and a gp who i see almost daily.
but nope. so i had to commit, in writing, to being an effective and responsible team member who is committed to her job and her team mates...
so i'm sick. and now worried for my job. and worried that i'm losing respect and validity in my team due to this issue, despite the fact that i regularly work overtime and time in lieu to help out, that i work for other departments to help out, or that i'm the most productive member of my team, or that i'll happily switch shifts with others when they need the time for family/medical appointments/holidays etc. but these things don't count anymore apparently. i'm seen as a bad employee. and this is heartbreaking to me.
i was feeling horrible because of being really, really sick. now i'm broken down over this work issue. my grandma is being sent to a home due to the alzheimers getting so bad she can no longer spend time unsupervised which is gutwrenching on a whole new level, and we might have to cancel the port adventure that was the whole reason we were going on our disney trip (oh the drama).
why is it when life sucks, it sucks hard, and all at once??? sorry for the angst, fellow DISers. but i needed to vent, and this forum was so handy.
but these last few weeks have just been full of wrong.
i have been sick. really sick. in hospital, doped up on painkillers & morphine, cannot function kind of sick. my body is not working properly and specialists are having fun poking & prodding and sending me for test after procedure after test. i'm weak and sick and worn out.
i have had sick days before. we all have. and i've had a medical certificate for every single absence. each time, it's been something legitimate like laryngitis or a broken leg or a stomach flu where you can't get out of bed for 2 days straight etc. however, with this newfound illness, i have had 10 days off work in the last 3 weeks. medical certificates and specialist letters backing up each incidence, and i have been fully open with my work about what is going on & what is wrong & how it is affecting me.
today my boss's boss calls me into his office. he's concerned that i am bad for morale. it's the busiest season at work for us, from feb - june and i'm not pulling my weight in the team. others are covering for me and that's unacceptable. they know i'm legitimately sick, but they want assurances that i'm not going to get sick again, and i have to commit to being a team player.... or....
yeah. they didn't say it out loud. but it was implied. be here, or find yourself a new job. and i wish i could but i need the regular income. i need the stability of a regular job that i'm fabulous at. i'm highly skilled in my field. hugely experienced and credentialled and i'm not boasting... i'm good. very good. but because of this issue, i've been essentially told that if i have more sick leave, i'm on thin ice...
ugh. i'd think they'd be more understanding of someone experiencing major medical issues, under the care of 2 specialists and a gp who i see almost daily.
but nope. so i had to commit, in writing, to being an effective and responsible team member who is committed to her job and her team mates...
so i'm sick. and now worried for my job. and worried that i'm losing respect and validity in my team due to this issue, despite the fact that i regularly work overtime and time in lieu to help out, that i work for other departments to help out, or that i'm the most productive member of my team, or that i'll happily switch shifts with others when they need the time for family/medical appointments/holidays etc. but these things don't count anymore apparently. i'm seen as a bad employee. and this is heartbreaking to me.
i was feeling horrible because of being really, really sick. now i'm broken down over this work issue. my grandma is being sent to a home due to the alzheimers getting so bad she can no longer spend time unsupervised which is gutwrenching on a whole new level, and we might have to cancel the port adventure that was the whole reason we were going on our disney trip (oh the drama).
why is it when life sucks, it sucks hard, and all at once??? sorry for the angst, fellow DISers. but i needed to vent, and this forum was so handy.