would this be allowed/rude/weird???

[PollyannaMom]

...I do give parenting advice whether it's requested or not because after 19 years of teaching other people's children it's a little hard not to judge. Parents need to remember that eventually their kids have live in the world.

Ahhh, but when they grow up and join the adult world, they will be shopping for and cooking their own food, so they will get to choose! (Actually, I do try to "coax" the adventurous eating bit with mine, but I don't make a battle of it, especially on vacation.)

I get what you mean about seeing the patterns in parenting decisions when you work with all the kids together. - It has definitely influenced my decisions at home. But I find the advice thing to be a very fine line, even if someone asks. (I figure if I make them feel judged, they'll likely do the opposite of what I say anyway.)

 

[Steph44]

14 be a team player an adjust, they have a good variety of food. Even my picky 11yr old found something.

 

[Aurora0427]

So...my whole family wants to experience BOG, I did the work to stalk the reservations to get us one not to mention the money I will be spending to go to Disney period, 3 of the 4 of us will be paying and ordering from there...but I shouldn't make a reservation there because I am taking up 1 extra seat by someone who doesn't want to actually eat there but still wants to experience it with us? should I just ban my son from the meal because he doesn't like their food, sorry son you cant come with us to this one guess you can go sit on a bench outside and wait... Seriously?

I love this. I agree. Seriously is correct.

 

[Aurora0427]

There are two things you cannot force a child to do- eat or use the potty- no matter the age! The more issue you make out of food, the worse it gets. You will not win.

Enjoy your vacation, OP, and I'm sorry for some of the judgmental remarks thrown your way.

 

[mommyboys3]

14 be a team player an adjust, they have a good variety of food. Even my picky 11yr old found something.

Sounds like OP's DS is doing just that. He's happily going to CRT because he knows his sister will like it. It also sounds like he would be happy going to BOG and making due with just fries & a cupcake and getting something after if he's still hungry. OP also stated that DS would not complain if he was "forced" to order a meal at BOG. He just wouldn't eat much & probably would not enjoy it. Sounds like a team player to me.

 

[Eastern]

Exactly. Our daughter is expected to try many different foods and to eat what's available just as DH and I did as children. I also have her summer learning already planned and her chore list posted. She's not allowed to use technology on school nights unless it's for homework and her bedtime is 9:00 even on weekends. She's never been beaten with a switch, however, or anything else. Don't worry. She's healthy, happy and plenty spoiled.

I do give parenting advice whether it's requested ot not because after 19 years of teaching other people's children it's a little hard not to judge. Parents need to remember that eventually their kids have live in the world.

That's what you do, and it's fine. Other people might do things a lot differently, and it's fine, too.

As to you giving parenting advice whether it's requested or not, well...

 

[godders]

Parents need to remember that eventually their kids have live in the world.

My parents used to threaten me and my older brother with beating from a cucumber or broccoli when we were younger when we were being difficult around food.....pretty sure that's why my now nearly 30 year old brother is still suspicious of green foods



But OP, do what you feel is best for your child and group. As others have said his food might be cold by the time you sit down because actually getting seated at BOG, even if you've pre-ordered can be a bit of a marathon. Can I suggest your son doesn't go out to get his food until you're just about to go into the room to pay/order your food at the mini kiosks. By the time he gets back chances are you'll be seated and possibly may already have your own food.

 

[L&Lfan]

That's what you do, and it's fine. Other people might do things a lot differently, and it's fine, too.

As to you giving parenting advice whether it's requested or not, well...

If it's requested what would be the problem?

 

[butterfly71076]

OP, I know you said your son doesn't like "lunch meat", but the turkey sandwich at BOG is not "lunch meat", it is actual turkey. I got mine plain (not a fan of sauces/spices/condiments) and it was pretty good. Or have you checked out the menu for Pinocchio's? I think that might be the closest place for you to get a different meal. They have nuggets and flatbreads at Pinocchio's and maybe your son could order a cupcake at BOG, the strawberry cream cheese one is amazing!! I wouldn't worry about people giving you weird looks, 99% of the people won't even notice and those that do have bigger problems!

I also grew up in the "eat what is put in front of you or go hungry". I spent many nights sitting at the dining room table because I did not like what was on my plate. I hated every second of it, but still would not eat the food because I didn't like it. Now, as an adult, I still do not eat things I don't like. With my own son, we have one food rule, you have to try something, at least twice, then if you really don't like it, you don't have to eat it. He found several things he likes this way, but some things he really doesn't like. Hope you have a great trip!!

 

[Lisa F]

He actually does have a condition called abdominal migraines which can flare up if he doesn't eat or drink enough water, so I am not going to make him go hungry and even aside from that I would hate to be hungry, hot and miserable on vacation so I am definitely not going to make my child do it. I didn't ask for parenting advice, thanks.

Man these kid and food discussions always burn me up. So many helpful people to tell you how to raise your kids, it's amazing.

When I am on vacation with my son, WE are on vacation and I think about his wants and desires as much as mine and will bend over backwards to accommodate him... on vacation. At home it is different and he is often told no, he is often told to suck up and deal and he often does not get his way. When we are on vacation there is no "suck up and deal." it is OUR vacation. His whims get accommodated as do mine. He is far from spoiled in the rest of his life.

 

[Lisa F]

I am sorry about some of the negative responses that left you feeling that the Disboards is not a good place to ask questions. That is wrong. Ask away, ignore the haters, pick and choose the answers that best fit your family and have a great vacation!

it's a good place to ask questions, it's just not a good place to ask questions where it gives people an soapbox to pontificate on childrearing and what is wrong in the world

 

[NorCalGal]

I wouldn't let the turn this discussion quickly took discourage you from posting questions. I was a little surprised myself.

You can have him go to Village Haus after you are all seated, but we have had issues when we try to go to different venues and meet in a central location. One place always seems to have a much longer wait, so one person arrives with food as everyone else is finishing. If he really wants nuggets or the flatbread, I'd give it a shot, but if the line is really long at Village Haus you may not end up really eating together.

For that one place, I would try to take a sandwich in as you suggested. You can keep your eye out during the morning for sides he will like from the "street vendors" (those kiosk-things that have fruit, veggies, nut mixes, etc.)

 

[JJZMgailey]

Or you could at least refrain from giving us multiple choices answers (allowed/rude/weird) if you don't want to hear opinions different than yours.

The multiple choices are not the issue here - it's all of the judgmental accusations that have been added in that have created a problem.

As to you giving parenting advice whether it's requested or not, well...

If it's requested what would be the problem?

I don't believe that the OP requested any parenting advice at all here. Advice was requested on how to handle a situation with a picky eater at a Quick Service restaurant at Disney - there's a big difference, folks.

I'd also like to remind everyone that sarcasm including posts that are argumentative are against the guidelines here. I'd like to kindly request that if you do not have any helpful suggestions regarding the situation the OP described in the first post that you please move along to another thread. I'd hate to have to close this thread when so many of our kind posters have lots of helpful information to add.

 

[Acrosthec]

OP, I just wanted to add that if you're on the Dining Plan and your son is a "Disney Adult," you may want to pay out of pocket if he orders off the kids' menu. Kid's entrees are generally priced less, and the credit for the dining plan will be a waste for a kid's meal (in my opinion) because the adult credit is "worth" so much more. Just something to think about if you're on the plan. That adult credit may be better used at a different location where he *does* want something off the regular menu, or if it ends up being an extra credit, he could trade it in at Goofy's in Disney Springs for some take-home treats with their 1CS = 3 snacks conversion.

 

[cheerupem0kidx0x]

Or you could at least refrain from giving us multiple choices answers (allowed/rude/weird) if you don't want to hear opinions different than yours.

Maybe I should have phrased it more clearly, I was definitely not expecting or inviting an attack on my parenting choices. When I said rude or weird I meant towards the restaurant/cast members as in would they have an issue with me bringing food there. Not as in asking for other parents to tell me I am raising my kids wrong or tell me I shouldn't be allowed to have a reservation there, etc.

 

[cheerupem0kidx0x]

Exactly. Our daughter is expected to try many different foods and to eat what's available just as DH and I did as children. I also have her summer learning already planned and her chore list posted. She's not allowed to use technology on school nights unless it's for homework and her bedtime is 9:00 even on weekends. She's never been beaten with a switch, however, or anything else. Don't worry. She's healthy, happy and plenty spoiled.

I do give parenting advice whether it's requested ot not because after 19 years of teaching other people's children it's a little hard not to judge. Parents need to remember that eventually their kids have live in the world.

I don't understand how a child would have any issue living in the real world because their parent didn't force them to eat foods they didn't like on vacation? You dont have to be a drill sergeant parent to raise respectful and well behaved child. Being a somewhat picky eater has not much to do with parenting choices in my eyes, as I have always offered and encouraged my children to eat a variety of things, and as a young child he did eat all kinds of things that he does not like now. He is getting older and developing his own tastes for things and I dont see that as a problem. As I said in a previous post, at home rules are a little different and plenty of times he does just have to eat whatever is for dinner whether he loves it or not. And how in the world does anyone have enough information to make a judgment like that based on the little bit of information given in this post anyways?

 

[cheerupem0kidx0x]

OP, I know you said your son doesn't like "lunch meat", but the turkey sandwich at BOG is not "lunch meat", it is actual turkey. I got mine plain (not a fan of sauces/spices/condiments) and it was pretty good. Or have you checked out the menu for Pinocchio's? I think that might be the closest place for you to get a different meal. They have nuggets and flatbreads at Pinocchio's and maybe your son could order a cupcake at BOG, the strawberry cream cheese one is amazing!! I wouldn't worry about people giving you weird looks, 99% of the people won't even notice and those that do have bigger problems!

I also grew up in the "eat what is put in front of you or go hungry". I spent many nights sitting at the dining room table because I did not like what was on my plate. I hated every second of it, but still would not eat the food because I didn't like it. Now, as an adult, I still do not eat things I don't like. With my own son, we have one food rule, you have to try something, at least twice, then if you really don't like it, you don't have to eat it. He found several things he likes this way, but some things he really doesn't like. Hope you have a great trip!!

Thanks! Yea if we do get different food itll probably be from Pinocchio's there is plenty he would like there. We have the same rule at home, if I cook something he doesn't like he has to at least try it and he has found some things he actually ended up liking that way. I just don't want to waste the $$ at Disney on food he probably would only take a few bites of.

 

[cheerupem0kidx0x]

Man these kid and food discussions always burn me up. So many helpful people to tell you how to raise your kids, it's amazing.

When I am on vacation with my son, WE are on vacation and I think about his wants and desires as much as mine and will bend over backwards to accommodate him... on vacation. At home it is different and he is often told no, he is often told to suck up and deal and he often does not get his way. When we are on vacation there is no "suck up and deal." it is OUR vacation. His whims get accommodated as do mine. He is far from spoiled in the rest of his life.

This is exactly what I was trying to say too! We are the same way.

 

[cheerupem0kidx0x]

I also want to add my dd who has been raised the same way as ds is not a picky eater at all so far, she will eat just about anything. So I think it's more of a personality thing than a parenting thing.

 

[Shellbells]

I've posted once but I'd like to add something. My family of 5 will be going to WDW in Dec. Our 9 year old only eats about 10 things. He will usually try new foods but not always. He is my step son so I don't force the issue and defer to my husband. Most of the time.
I really wanted to go to BOG but decided against it because there is nothing he'll eat there.
However, I've found Disney's customer service to be amazing and I honestly don't think they will have any problem with you bringing in a little something for him to eat.
In the end, it's your family, your child and you have to do what you feel will work best for you.

I am sorry the judgemental comments made you feel this isn't a great board. It really is.

There are the most amazing and helpful people here. Try to ignore the few that sometimes forget how much we all love Disney and the feeling of joy and chidhood it gives us.