Hey guys.. wanted to give an update.
We're all doing much better now. It had gotten so bad the other day that Ex threatened to take Devyn away. At that point Chris lost it and sent him a really nasty email. We both know he shouldn't have, but he did feel alot better afterwards. Ex, of course, showed his true colors and spewed his venom right back. I managed to get Chris to lay off this issue and not reply again. In the midst of all of this, I get an email from the new wife. She was very supportive and understanding but also gave indication as to why Ex did what he did. (Which there still was no excuse for).
I explained to her all of the issues that we had and why Ex and I agreed on that certain amount of money to begin with. I also explained to her that we rely on the money Ex gives as part of our living expenses. I told her that essentially all I wanted from Ex was to give me a simple explanation as to why I can't have the money then, and when I was to get it. I also told her that I had mailed bills off the day before I was even set to receive the money and that since the money was so late (We did get the money from him a day ago), most of those checks bounced and now I have overdraft fees. She also explained to me that she thought Ex told us about the marriage and surmised that it didnt surprise her that he didnt in the end. She did apologize for that also. She did feel that I had a right to know. She promised that if something ever came up with the money issue again, we would be able to work it out and that she wanted to start getting Devyn every other weekend (as stated in the divorce). She also explained that Ex isn't as bad as this all looks and that he does put Devyn first. I still have my doubts on that. It's obvious that Ex still has alot of the same communication issues that he had during our marraige.
Chris and I still think that we are going to go ahead and just have a lawyer review all this stuff anyways, just to protect ourselves in the future in case this happens again. And he wasn't happy about it, but Chris did send an apology to Ex and his wife. But that was a big step for him and I am proud of him. He just did what came natural and he wanted to protect us.
Desiree'