LuvOrlando
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Jun 8, 2006
Oh I am very sad to hear this is happening. My family literally just recently got MIL into a memory care facility, at this point she doesn't seem to care what bed she can get to as long as it is a bad so she is content, doesn't ask about home or seem to miss it at all. There was physical decline too and it is heartbreaking when they can't care for themselves but know how to say, "No, go away," and answer all the questions with the answers the Drs want yet were as incapable as a toddler This was a very long road but she is much younger that your dad and issues were hidden a long time so it is best to document everything with photos and share with his Dr even if it is just a one way street of you sending them, if you wait until you are worried to the Dr's it is brand new news. Can you get cameras into the house with motion to keep an eye on things? the Eufy ones are pretty cheap, have no ongoing costs and you can talk to a person to see if they are ok. Medicare can provide a few hours a day but I also used to participate at my Church where lots of volunteers helped out elderly and disabled people. In our situation it was an easier sell to discuss care with meals, as in the caregiver would make meals and clean up, she wasn't a fan of thinking she needed help although she took it when it was there. Is it at all possible that you guys could sell this as a help for your MIL? Would he be ok seeing her as the person who needs help, not him? If it is a pride thing sometimes the way a thing is presented can change everything.