Briar Rose 7457
Proud of my Princesses
- Joined
- Apr 9, 2002
I have to give my 12 year old credit for still wanting to "work things out" with the other girl, but really. I would have written her off.
my dd and "Heather" met last year in 6th grade and became best friends. but after some of the things Heather pulled last year I didn't understand why my dd put up with her.
dd came in with a new pocketbook and showed it fo Heather. "someone" wrote on the pocketbook when dd wasn't looking. another time, Heather "accidentally" put a pen mark on dd's new t -shirt. "someone" wrote unkind things about dd in dd's yearbook last June -- dd recognized Heather's handwriting.
in September dd came back to school with a new denim jacket. Heather made a nasty remark about the jacket. dd had a favorite pair of sunglasses that all of her camp friends loved; Heather said the sunglasses were ridiculous. both girls tried out for cheerleading. Heather was convinced that she'd be a cheerleader but that dd wouldn't make the squad and said so. they both made the squad.
with friends like that, huh? wait, it gets better.
Heather has been known to say outrageous things about herself in order to get attention. in 6th grade she told several people that she was bulemic. they believed her and told her guidance counselor.
in february Heather saw the movie "Sugar and Spice". it's about cheerleaders. one of the characters is pregnant. Heather told someone at school "I'm pregnant." of course, rumors flew all over the 7th grade. someone asked my dd "is it true about Heather?" my dd said "I don't know, I'll ask her." but then my dd asked someone else if they'd heard the rumor, and Heather accused my dd of starting the rumor in the first place!
well, they all wound up in the guidance counselor's office, and they worked things out.
until now.
on Wednesday dd and another girl papered Heather's locker for her birthday. dd and the other girl almost got into trouble for this. not for papering the locker, but for the birthday greeting they wrote. Heather gave herself a nickname, you see. so they used the nickname on the sign on the locker. they didn't realize that "Happy birthday, Hooters" was inappropriate for middle school. the principal was none too pleased to see that sign on the locker.
dd tells me that Heather has been cutting class a lot lately, and got mad at dd when dd wouldn't cut class with her.
this week dd invited Heather to sit at her lunch table. another of dd's friends changed her table because she won't sit with Heather.
yesterday two of dd's friends told her things about Heather. one girl, who had a fight with Heather, said "I was at Heather's house last week before the fight and Heather's older sister was making fun of you because you're Jewish." another girl, who didn't have a fight with Heather, told my dd "Heather's parents were talking about you and making fun of the way you look." when dd asked Heather what happened, Heather replied "you know my sister was only joking."
in the lunchroom yesterday, dd sat with someone other than heather. Heather tried to interrupt dd's conversation with another girl, and got offended that dd was "ignoring" her.
I think this girl is trouble and I don't wan t my dd to be freinds with her. but if I tell her that, she won't listen.
so how do I tell her that the girl isn't her friend and to cut her off without actually saying so?
my dd and "Heather" met last year in 6th grade and became best friends. but after some of the things Heather pulled last year I didn't understand why my dd put up with her.
dd came in with a new pocketbook and showed it fo Heather. "someone" wrote on the pocketbook when dd wasn't looking. another time, Heather "accidentally" put a pen mark on dd's new t -shirt. "someone" wrote unkind things about dd in dd's yearbook last June -- dd recognized Heather's handwriting.
in September dd came back to school with a new denim jacket. Heather made a nasty remark about the jacket. dd had a favorite pair of sunglasses that all of her camp friends loved; Heather said the sunglasses were ridiculous. both girls tried out for cheerleading. Heather was convinced that she'd be a cheerleader but that dd wouldn't make the squad and said so. they both made the squad.
with friends like that, huh? wait, it gets better.
Heather has been known to say outrageous things about herself in order to get attention. in 6th grade she told several people that she was bulemic. they believed her and told her guidance counselor.
in february Heather saw the movie "Sugar and Spice". it's about cheerleaders. one of the characters is pregnant. Heather told someone at school "I'm pregnant." of course, rumors flew all over the 7th grade. someone asked my dd "is it true about Heather?" my dd said "I don't know, I'll ask her." but then my dd asked someone else if they'd heard the rumor, and Heather accused my dd of starting the rumor in the first place!
well, they all wound up in the guidance counselor's office, and they worked things out.
until now.
on Wednesday dd and another girl papered Heather's locker for her birthday. dd and the other girl almost got into trouble for this. not for papering the locker, but for the birthday greeting they wrote. Heather gave herself a nickname, you see. so they used the nickname on the sign on the locker. they didn't realize that "Happy birthday, Hooters" was inappropriate for middle school. the principal was none too pleased to see that sign on the locker.
dd tells me that Heather has been cutting class a lot lately, and got mad at dd when dd wouldn't cut class with her.
this week dd invited Heather to sit at her lunch table. another of dd's friends changed her table because she won't sit with Heather.
yesterday two of dd's friends told her things about Heather. one girl, who had a fight with Heather, said "I was at Heather's house last week before the fight and Heather's older sister was making fun of you because you're Jewish." another girl, who didn't have a fight with Heather, told my dd "Heather's parents were talking about you and making fun of the way you look." when dd asked Heather what happened, Heather replied "you know my sister was only joking."
in the lunchroom yesterday, dd sat with someone other than heather. Heather tried to interrupt dd's conversation with another girl, and got offended that dd was "ignoring" her.
I think this girl is trouble and I don't wan t my dd to be freinds with her. but if I tell her that, she won't listen.
so how do I tell her that the girl isn't her friend and to cut her off without actually saying so?