You adjust, you make do, and you pray. A lot!!
I receive child support for DS#2, but that will end the day he graduates in June. No support for DS#1 -- he was 18 when their Dad walked out . (Thank you to the State of Pennsylvania, for not requiring Dads to help past HS graduation!)
So, next year I have two in college and if you think that gives me lots of financial aid, think again. Their costs will be over $20,000 and I made $40,000 last year. Plus, I got the house, but I also got the mortgage, upkeep, utility payments, etc.
I drive a five-year-old minivan and pray that it will hold together. I shop for my clothes in Walmart and Target (that's when I buy myself clothes!). I clip coupons and shop the sales as well as Sam's Club. We eat a lot of hamburger and I take PB & J to work everyday for lunch.
But the financial part isn't the one that gets me down. It's being for the most part solely responsible for the growth of two young men. Their Dad calls it "co-parenting", but he only sees DS#2 for one dinner a week. I never get the break of them staying over at his place. Plus, he's dragging his feet on this divorce that HE wanted -- so I'm in limbo for the last 18 months and can't afford to pay any more $$$ to the lawyer to initiate it on my own.
It's a tough life -- not something I would wish on anyone. And truly only understood by someone who has gone down this road.
Edie