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[ottawamom]

Ok I've read the article now and I'm doing things all wrong. DS2 has moved out but we pay for his car insurance, I give him food (most AM Blue Friday shops)etc. Maybe I do need to worry less and let him deal with more on his own. He doesn't ask for help I just offer it because I don't want to see him struggle but I guess struggle is good. I need to be hands off!

Very enlightening articles Mel. Thanks for posting them.

 

[hdrolfe]

So I was late to leave my parent's home, I was 26 or 27? Something like that, and left mainly because they retired and were moving away. When I left, my parents continued to give me money pretty much monthly until I got a better paying job. Even now, when I go visit they give me stuff (mostly groceries they got on sale, often treats for the boy). They will ask him what he wants and go buy it for him, we come home with ribs and Shepherd's pie all the time. And chips and freezies lol. They fill the kid's pockets with loonies and toonies to buy his treats. When they lived a bit further they would give me money for the gas to visit them. I don't need or expect that but it is nice sometimes! I have no idea what to expect with my kid, somedays he says he will live with me forever and other times he can't wait to get out I am trying to instill some independence in him, but he is only 9, and while very smart he has some emotional and social immaturity. I am hoping that it will get sorted out with some professional assistance. I know he can do well for himself, but I do worry for him.

Any way! I think every parent does the best the can, but of course I get it. I am struggling myself with thinking it took me too long to realize he has ADHD (among other things) and he's suffered for years in school because of it. I know we love our kids. Want the best for them. And do what we think is right. I think remembering to take care of ourselves is often harder than worrying about our kids.

 

[marchingstar]

i’m here too!

hanging on by an absolute thread these days. my wife had a nasty stomach bug that put her out of commission for almost 2 weeks. as it was getting better...the baby got it. he’s on the mend, but tons of nighttime snuggles have made us all tired and turned my great little sleeper into a screaming mess unless he’s held.

tomorrow is our anniversary (10 years together ). at first we were planning a road trip. then kiddo got sick and we switched to a stay-cation with a night at a nice, local hotel. now with him screaming all night, it looks like we’ll be celebrating at home, where his cries only keep us awake. rolling with it is definitely the right call, but i do feel a bit sad that we can’t mark the occasion a bit more.

that’s more of a life update than a health one, but they’re pretty closely related. i’m in super self-care mode, and my health goals right now are things like “get 5 hours of sleep/night, even if it’s interrupted” but at least i’m meeting them?

 

[Donald - my hero]

*****Consider yourselves warned, upcoming rambling but if it annoys you, don't read any further ****
Hi everyone, here in spirit if nothing else. It's comforting to know that we're all muddling along, various states of life but all dealing with similar problems that stem from the fact that we, at some point in time, decided we wanted to create a tiny human being and have since learned that those delightful creatures in turn, suck the life out of us! It's frustrating to know that the "mom roll" is never much different, we're expected to care for that needy little being from the time they are but a sparkle in our minds until we lose our minds Don't get me wrong, i would NEVER go back and change my mind about having them, and I love all of my children to pieces and would literally die for any of them, the 2 by birth and the 2 by love, but dang, it's draining STILL!

Moving on, I think you've all gleamed from various posts of mine that have either been slightly "off", simply perfunctory or more than obvious complaints that life has been the PITS lately. We went from wondering if my dad would ever get a placement to moving to a home (or whatever the term is I'm supposed to use) that was actually at the top of my list but led to MANY arguments with my mom over how "miserable it make me" (get that? it's all about her!) it has been hard slogging, I had to help the actual day and that was a disaster-- lost count of the number of times I apologized to someone on staff about one or the other of my parents behavoiur AKKKK.

Our trip to Mexico imploded and left us with nothing to look forward to .. basically their allergy services are not what I'd been led to believe and if they can't figure out that butter & cheese are dairy they sure as heck can't handle MY issues! Oh well, that had an AMAZING outcome in the end, 2 full weeks at our dream resort and (get this gang) it's already PAID IN FULL! We're currently thinking of ways to get as much of the trip paid for with airmiles/pc points (gawd i can't figure that out!) and gift cards so that we don't need to spend much more when we get there.

MY stomach is in full-on revolt mode right now and is frustrating me to no end. I've been in the middle of a gastritis attack since last WEDNESDAY, I just think it's better and then WHAM, nope, back to the floor buckled over in pain. Keep needing to cancel appointments, took us 3 tries to actually get to the travel agency yesterday I don't know what else to cut from my diet. The results from my wretched CT Scan were, just like we expected "fine" I'm exhausted and doing my best to not let it affect my mood but it's becoming a losing battle.

Time to finish up bbq-ing dinner, hubby's good with burgers but steaks seem to stump him (i wonder if that's just so he doesn't need to do it )

 

[marchingstar]

collective hugs to each of you

 

[ottawamom]

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[bababear_50]

Have a great day!!Happy Canada Day!




Hugs Mel

 

[Donald - my hero]

Time for another check-in on everyone I think! I find it a bit harder to get any movement in at this time of year because i simply HATE the heat, like i get miserable, snarly and all i do is sit in front of our tiny window AC unit whining! I'm still trying to go for at least a short walk every day and keep pushing the water.

Update on my health coming up, ignore if you don't want to read another sob story.
It seems that the stupid CT scan, that i really shouldn't have had, caused an auto-immune reaction and has left me feeling defeated when it comes to food. Certain foods began causing welts in my mouth so i started keeping a journal. I've also developed some oral allergies causing my mouth to react to things like pollen & dander. New food intolerances have popped up and my entire GI tract is revolting. I was told to start a low FODMAP diet (not gonna get into what that horror show involves) and because I'd do anything to stop the constant searing pain I dove head long into it. Fast forward to Wednesday and not only did i get my familiar line of welts in my mouth but my tongue started hurting and my lips got swollen. GREAT, just great, I had already made some connections and was avoiding wheat, peanuts, walnuts & some veggies. SOOO now I'm on a very strict elimination diet to try and sort this out, today's menu includes Beef, corn (not sweet, popped & polenta i made in my instant pot) lactose-free milk & butter. That's it, 4 things because they are the ONLY things I've not reacted to. By Monday, if I'm lucky, I'll add in rice, feel the excitement mounting! Doctor made a referral to an allergist but we have no idea when that will happen. The swelling of my tongue & lips means I'm heading back into to ask for an epi-pen, i know where this might lead!!

Happy I have a Disney trip to plan and look forward to but our 180 day mark came and went and I haven't even got a basic blueprint for our park days yet. I'm just overwhelmed with life and spend too much time immobilized by indecision. I keep checking in on my peeps and doing my best to keep the AM thread up-to-date but even that managed to sneak past me this week.

Hope everyone else is finding ways to stay cool and enjoy the summer!

 

[bababear_50]

Sending gentle healing hugs your way J.
~~~~Healing Hugs~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

So I've spent three weeks of R&R just doing nothing(insert Netflix,Crave,Shopping etc............................which is ok but starting Monday I need to start moving a bit more or my body is going to crash when I go back to work in Sept.
Keep on swimming everyone


Hugs
Mel

 

[hdrolfe]

Eating to figure out allergies is not fun. Hopefully you can figure it out and are able to add back in some things. I have some intestinal issues I ignore, figuring out what causes it is so much work. So I tend to deal with the consequences rather than solve the mystery. I don't envy you Donald!

I have not been getting my step goals. It is so HOT! I mean it was 46 with humidex today. really? Ugh! Poor puppy hasn't been getting walks either, we've been playing fetch in the house and he goes out to run a bit in the back. I hope to get back to it. I should get acclimatized since we are going to Disney end of August and it will be hot like this. But way more fun! I only have a week and 1/2 left of work and then we are off for 5 weeks. Jackson did really well at one of his camps, he was so exhausted he slept well, no fights! But then last week's camp was not so good. At least we know for the next summer. He has one week of daycare next week then he'll go stay with my parents for a few days while I finish up work. Hopefully once work is done I'll be able to get the dog out for walks early enough to beat the heat.

 

[bababear_50]

Eating.........
I've been having digestive problems for about a year now....
It is such a trial and error situation....yesterday I went through hours of pain and I can only attribute it to eating fresh tomatoes and a barbecued hot dog.(it was so good tasting).

I am trying to keep my diet simple,,here is what I can eat right now:
eggs
oatmeal
bananas
potatoes
rice
Quiche--not store bought--homemade only
almost all bread products,,as long as they are plain
chicken
pork chops
turkey
honey
occasionally mixed veggies
mushrooms
occasionally romaine
1/2 the coffee I used to drink,,just can't give it up yet
tea with cinnamon
grapes
pasta
oatmeal cookies
lots of water
plain crackers
sometimes yogurt depends on type

no red meats,,no bacon
no nuts,,no bits and Bites(used to be my favorite snack)
no juice
no citrus fruits
occasionally jam
occasionally peanut butter
no cheeses,,,,,,occasionally a smidge of blue cheese
sometimes Tuna,,although it is becoming a issue also
no onions
no whole grain breads--used to love them
no green peppers,no tomatoes
no hot dogs
no chocolate
NO Shellfish at all--Anaphylactic allergy
No cheese crackers

I have to eat before 6 pm and no snack before bed,,my biggest meal is usually around lunchtime.
I use a sandwich plate for all meals,,,doctor recommended 6 small meals a day instead of three big meals.
So far I have been diagnosed with a Hiatal Hernia and will probably see a specialist in the future,,,waitlist are so long.

Hang in there everyone
Hugs
Mel

 

[marchingstar]

they added all these 'reactions' and somehow none of them are quite what I'm looking for! Think of my 'likes' as hugs, friends!

I'm doing a lot better than I was last time I posted. Not that I was doing badly then, just stretched really thin and worn down. But everyone in my house is healthy again, which means I'm feeling better too.

My check-in:
I bought a BBQ! I'm super excited about it, and I've used it tons. I used to cook as little as possible in the summer because it felt like we were actually living in the oven... we're actually getting tons of rain, so on cold days I'm cooking inside, but it's a treat to cook outside and not turn the house into an oven. We've also really cut back on the amount of food we're eating out/ordering. I would much rather throw something simple on the grill. Saves $, and even simple grilled food tastes great.

Most of my activity is related to house maintenance, really. My wife and I have some control over our work schedules (a nice way of saying we're both contract workers and 'get to pick' when we have contracts. It means we both have times where we're not pulling an income, but the plus side is it means one of us can always be home with the kid). Right now she's working and I'm not, so I'm doing most of the work inside and outside the house. Plus, we try to have one or two family days/week and those usually involve walks, which is my preferred activity (nothing like a long walk through the neighbourhood with a 20-pound weight napping on my back!). My fitness tracker says I'm averaging 10K+ steps/day, which is much more than I was doing at the start of the year.

 

[ottawamom]

Happy to read what everyone is up to. I'm sending hugs to those of your battling health issues. Like all of you there is a list of things I need to stay away from these days (all the things that used to be my favourite indulge items). Getting older just sucks sometimes.

I'm not doing a thing today. DS decided he wanted to renovate his tent trailer before next weekend. We (his girlfriend and I) were painting and (he and I) put a new floor in that heat. I know (what we do for our kids). DS has great plans but needed a project manager (me) to keep him on track. I had my wading pool in the backyard and I went and soaked in it a few times.

Today though I am beat. Muscles I didn't know I had are sore. Fortunately the heat has broken so I can open the windows in the house and let some fresh air in. A day or two and I will be back on track.

Like Mel said, keep moving everyone. Even if it's not as much as you would like each step, arm curl counts.

 

[Debbie]

HUGS to each and every one of us struggling. The daily trials can sometimes be overwhelming. All we can do is be kind to ourselves, and keep on moving.

 

[Pumpkin1172]

Hugs to @Donald - my hero and @bababear_50 . Food allergies are so tough. I had more when I was young. Not so much anymore. Jaqueline...sending you extra tight hugs, that I hope you find some relief soon from them. Mel, I hope that you can find a few more food to add to your list that you can eat.

Not much to report from me. Life has settled down now for a bit. Honestly I have not had any energy for much activity in the evenings, and my energy levels are just low. once the wedding, grad and now school were done, my body just said ENOUGH. I hit a wall of exhaustion that left me feeling like I had ran a three day marathon with no breaks and absolutely ZERO energy. It has gotten better that I don't feel that huge exhaustion anymore, but my energy levels are still very low. The weather here doesn't help either. We were praying for rain here...but we are now wanting the taps turned off. We are over saturated now. As I speak, it is raining ( since midnight last night ) and still supposed to until sometime tomorrow. I do feel much better once the sun is shinning and i'm able to put my feet on nice warm ground. Well, hopefully once this rain goes away, I will find some ambition to get off my butt and outside to do some walking, or even into my project room for an evening

 

[ottawamom]

I know my peeps here will appreciate what I did. So I'm helping DS renovate his tent trailer. Inside is finished but the outside canvas needs a few tears attended to. DS's idea of a patch is black gorilla tape. Needless to say that's not going to work for me. I had a pair of light grey jeans the exact colour of the tent canvas so I made some patches to glue onto the tent.

DS was off at work when I was doing all this. True to my Disney loving form one of the patches just happens to be in the shape of a Mickey head. I don't know if he will fully appreciate it but that's what you get for having your mom repair your tent.

Tomorow I'm off to the fabric store to find a colour close to the lower sections canvas to make a few more patches.

 

[ottawamom]

This week has been a non-traditional exercise week. I spent hours yesterday fixing screening in the tent trailer. Earlier in the week I was on a berry picking craze. I pick black and white currants and made jam and jelly. I also picked gooseberries for the first time and made some jam from that. My friend had an abundant raspberry crop this year as well to I made up a couple of batches of that. I didn't get around to getting any strawberries picked this year so I will have to wait to make that jam.

The freezer is full of jam now (I like to keep it in the freezer instead of on a shelf to make sure it stays safe to eat) and I am pooped. Taking an off day to recover. We're off to Syracuse on the weekend for some Dinosaur BBQ. Ribs and fried green tomato appetizer, can't wait.

I'll get back on the treadmill next week.

 

[Donald - my hero]

This is what happens on a Toronto day when I decide to order something from linen chest to get the Christmas in July promo, the store doesn't open till 10 but the bay is closer and when I go in I discover a massive clearance sale going on ...

 

[ottawamom]

Whatever it takes to get those steps in. A girl has to do what a girl has to do. Happy shopping.

 

[bababear_50]

Well you know you've trained them well when you text the youngest son to ask what would you like in your christmas stocking in terms of your favorite gift card and he texts back
Air Canada Gift Card
Expedia Gift Card
Hotwire Gift Card and always Amazon.
Oh boy I was thinking A&W or Tims,,,,times are changing.lol
Hugs
Mel