kaytieeldr
DIS Veteran
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- Jun 11, 2005
Mother's cousin's kid? Second cousin. $50-$100.Because of this I’d do at least $200 for a couple, but if it was me I’d give $300 even though you aren’t close to ensure I covered my plate
Mother's cousin's kid? Second cousin. $50-$100.Because of this I’d do at least $200 for a couple, but if it was me I’d give $300 even though you aren’t close to ensure I covered my plate
It’s still a thing, just not for out of stater’s on the DIS... And you could’ve said no, but it will probably be really fun, and even if you don’t know them well, you will catch up with family at an event that isn’t a wake/funeral, which is a blessing. And if that is what you can afford, it’s perfect.Thanks for all the input everyone! I was thinking old school since back in the day it was expected to “pay for your plate” however I’ve read that is thankfully no longer a thing.
I’m thinking we might be ok to give between $100-150 I don’t want to be cheap but I also,feel like I don’t really know them so I don’t feel the need to give more if that makes sense
In hindsight we should have declined the invite and just sent a small gift
Mother's cousin's kid? Second cousin. $50-$100.
I have no idea why, but i thought they weren't attending. I take back my response$50-100 if they were not attending the wedding. OP said this was a wedding in NJ. Weddings in the Northeast are different. I would not attend one giving $50.
Now I am curious where the wedding is being held??? Asking as a Southern Jersey girl who feels like back in the day I was to every wedding venue around.The wedding is in south jersey at a small beach venue. Ceremony on beach reception after in restaurant attached
I’ve been to wedding down the shore that have been just as pricy as up here, I think the breakers starts at $100 pp. South is generally cheaper than north, with the exception of beach areas, where a small hotel room runs $300+ peak season.Northern/Central NJ are more like NY where $$$ is expected as the wedding is expensive that is just how it is in that area no offense to anyone but if you want a wedding in that area the price is the price....... so below
A lot of people from these areas are having the reception in Southern NJ and PA as the Venues are a lot cheaper and so are the traditions of how much to give or a gift rather than cash...also if part of the family is from that area the traditions are different.
I am not saying it is cheap to have a wedding any where these days but in the areas above you can expect to pay over 100 a plate at the normal places and when you add on the expected full open premium bar, happy hour add ons and special dessert hour it gets into big bucks and does not include a DJ or flowers or the big cakes ...Limos, photographer etc as yours alone..... and no one (hopefully) goes into a wedding expecting to get back what they paid they hopefully would invite some have them at the wedding period....
I would say for a couple, $200 minimum. I generally wouldn't base the gift on relationship level, except to give more if the relationship was closer.
$50 for a couple, no, except if anyone was experiencing hardship, in which case a card would be ok.
Trivia: I got married in NJ in early 90s. Average couple gift was $100. Some $150s, a few more generous gifts, and a few $50 and $60s from older, distant relatives.
PS - $50 did not quite cover the plate cost for 1...but it did cover the "I valued you" cost, which is what we're usually discussing...
It sounds like the OP is here in Jersey, we don’t give actual wedding gifts here.
Born in NJ but live in SC for a long time...weddings are still very different between regions...up North - registry gifts are more for showers and wedding gifts are cash. But to answer the question - if you go to the wedding - I would try and give enough to cover the cost of the reception - if not attending then I would do $50.As a Southerner, I never give money. I'd pick something from their registry.