pocomom
Brr.....
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- Oct 20, 2012
I don't think giving old people drugs is the answer. . .
Giving old people drugs is almost ALWAYS the answer
Everyone gets angry when you give them to the kids
I don't think giving old people drugs is the answer. . .
Giving old people drugs is almost ALWAYS the answer
Everyone gets angry when you give them to the kids
For the last 3 trips we have gone to Disney we have gone with my parents. One year they even paid for the trip! They love to go with their grandkids. However we are planing a new trip with just us, no grandma or grandpa. There are several reasons for this, mostly because my dad has COPD and can't hardly walk. He knows he can't walk without pain anymore, but he pushes it to hard. Mom was just diagnosed with breast cancer so she doesn't need to be around a crowd after chemo.
Anyway, I know they can't go, THEY would know they can't go, but it is going to break their hearts that they can't go. Anyone have any words to help me soften the blow when I tell them?
I note with interest that almost everyone has interpreted the OP as wanting to take her parents but not being able to. That's NOT what she said. She was looking for input on how to tell them she and her family are going on vacation without them. I also suspect that's why she has not replied - everyone here might try to make it seem like she's obligated to never take a trip without her parents, no matter what the circumstances...
One: You just want to have a vacation alone with your kids. That's perfectly OK and you are not obligated to vacation with anyone. In that case, I don't think you can avoid hurting their feelings or softening the blow if they want to join you.
Two: You don't mind them joining you but you think it's best for them to stay home. If that's the case, I would suggest that you sit down and have a loving heart to heart with them and discuss their physical limitations and how they relate to a WDW trip. THEN, I would also let them make their own decision to go or stay home.
It is the best decision for their health at this time. Just wondering, don't you think that it is HEALTHY for you as your own small family unit to be entitled to go on a vacation without feeling a SENSE OF OBLIGATION to EVERY YEAR? It is a wonderful thing to vacation with grandparents, but imo, for the grandparents to expect it every year or be insulted or disappointed is too overbearing as parents, just my opinion. I LOOK FORWARD to the day when we bring our future grandchildren on our trips as well as our sons and their future wives, all of us together, but I don't want for our sons to feel that it HAS TO BE an annual obligation. I will respect and welcome our sons and their wives their own individual family time. Hope that your parents health improves and hope that they can understand and be happy for you!I like the idea of telling them this time you just want your own family to go and hopefully in the future your parents can go another time with you. Your parents may be relieved that you are not expecting them to come because they are probably not up to it.
Sorry it has taken me a few days to get back here. This trip we just to be the 5 of us. All our other trips have been with them and although we love them it would be nice to be a smaller group. Plus there is the matter of their health.
You all have given me a lot of good advice and a lot to think about. Now I just need to take that advice and roll with it . Thank you all!