Both sets of grandparents will be meeting us down there
We decided to have a graduation dinner at Shades of Green
My graduate had originally asked for a completely alcohol free dinner because of our family member, so we planned on Magic Kingdom, but they just backed out of going to the parks with us, and I can’t think of a place that is dry outside of the parks.
If you want a small event that is under disney catering, check out this site. https://disneytravelbabble.com/how-to/private-party/ Not sure how it works nowadays, but it's a good place to start.
Maybe some folks dont eat dessert or apps so providing that would "only benefit some of the participants" .... I don't see an issue either way, but when we host a party or dinner we pay the tab including adult refreshments/desserts/Apps. You are obviously stressing about it so before I would allow this to possibly ruin my kid's party or cause a family issue I'd just pay the bill.It's your party and you can choose to pay (or not pay) for whatever you want. It sounds like two different issues to me. Alcohol can be pricey and some people don't drink, so having an 'open bar' will often only benefit some of the participants. If you have a concern about a family member with a drinking problem, not sure who pays for the drinks will solve that issue. Maybe choose a restaurant that doesn't serve alcohol is that is your main concern and then you can avoid any awkwardness.
But no one is going to cause a scene if they eat too many apps or dessert. That is where the problem lies. They aren’t trying to be cheap and get out of paying for their guests.Maybe some folks dont eat dessert or apps so providing that would "only benefit some of the participants" .... I don't see an issue either way, but when we host a party or dinner we pay the tab including adult refreshments/desserts/Apps. You are obviously stressing about it so before I would allow this to possibly ruin my kid's party or cause a family issue I'd just pay the bill.
Don't see anything in the original post that says that anyone in the family would "cause a scene" ..... specifically refers to them being "heavy drinkers" (whatever that might mean to them). The fact the OP just doesn't ban alcohol at the event period leads one to believe the reason is financial rather than an issue with an active alcoholic or person in recovery.But no one is going to cause a scene if they eat too many apps or dessert. That is where the problem lies. They aren’t trying to be cheap and get out of paying for their guests.
OP, I get it. We have a close family member in recovery. When they are present at family events there is no alcohol at all. But my kids are young and we basically host events at our home or kid birthday type places, so we haven’t run into this issue yet. I hope you can figure out a solution and your daughter has a lovely celebration.
Maybe some folks dont eat dessert or apps so providing that would "only benefit some of the participants" .... I don't see an issue either way, but when we host a party or dinner we pay the tab including adult refreshments/desserts/Apps. You are obviously stressing about it so before I would allow this to possibly ruin my kid's party or cause a family issue I'd just pay the bill.
You are right, it is never said this person might make a scene. I am making an assumption based on the way it has been discussed and that it is a sensitive topic. I could be wrong.Don't see anything in the original post that says that anyone in the family would "cause a scene" ..... specifically refers to them being "heavy drinkers" (whatever that might mean to them). The fact the OP just doesn't ban alcohol at the event period leads one to believe the reason is financial rather than an issue with an active alcoholic or person in recovery.
If it's an issue of alcoholism then this is a no brainer either have the dinner in a location that doesn't serve, make it known it will be an alcohol free event (no option to BYODs), or don't invite the family member(s).
You are right, it is never said this person might make a scene. I am making an assumption based on the way it has been discussed and that it is a sensitive topic. I could be wrong.
But I also don’t get the sense it is strictly financial. It seems that OP is trying to limit alcohol while still having some available for responsible drinkers. Some people are more likely to over-imbibe when it’s on someone else’s dime, but not as much when they’re paying for it themselves. It is a tricky position to be in and it seems they are trying to be good a good host and make it special for the daughter.