I think the OP was very wise to keep her mouth shut and just vent here. We can't litigate feelings and thoughts. Her family knows how she feels but probably appreciates that she keep silent and just go later. Compromise.
That isn't really what my post was about. Is the dh going? Is he bring the 8lbs of shrimp the OP didn't want to bring? If yes there is no compromise. He is going to see his family and bring what they asked, or according to the OP, demanded.
Her not going because it was game day didn't seem to be an issue with her husband, it was an issue for a few posters here.