bumbershoot
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Mar 5, 2007
She also has the most amount of pride I have ever seen in someone so I think there is a matter of principle here as well. I believe her exact words were “they will make an ice-skating ring out of hell before I take my name off the deed“ LOL!
I don’t equate pride with keeping her name on the deed.
Keeping your feet to the fire seems more like what she’s doing. And as righteous as I’m sure that feels for her, and as guilty as I get the feeling you feel, it’s not actually righteous or right.
You said that they are selling around the same price per point as what? As what they originally sold for?
Oh sorry. As each other. I was expecting Aulani to have a higher resale per point price, and therefore expected your 100 Aulani points to be around the same *total* cost as the 160 AK points. But the 100 Aulani contract and 160 AK contract I saw (which was wild that both were up there like that) were about 105 and 107 per point.
You've mentioned her getting the short end of the stick several times. It sounds a lot like she is perhaps entitled to one of the contracts but whatever you decide either you need to settle the issue of the existing membership in one way or another or learn to work with 2 memberships because you don't want to add a new contract to the existing membership.
Agreed.
Really, I want you to be able to enjoy your DVC and your new family, and I think the best way for you to do that will be to find a way to cut this tie with your ex completely...
Same.
Split the contracts so your ex has one in her name only and you have one in your name only. You could even offer to continue giving her money for the annual dues if you want.
Agreed.
OP you could consider it contract-long alimony. I mean, I only get 5 years alimony, and we were married just under 15 years, so she’s definitely getting that longer than I am, but seems like it’s been working so far.
It’s still not your responsibility to repay her for whatever you did 10 years ago. But you’re being kind, and that’s, well, kind of you. Despite the suddenness of it all, financially my ex has been kind, and has gone above and beyond the legal requirements. And that’s lovely. But it is time to separate those deeds out. IMO.
DIS counseling sessions are the best. People here helped me decide to keep Dvc last year, and I’m so glad they did.