It’s Iowa and no they haven’t stated any stay at home orders. The place my parents work is considered essential as well as where dh’s parents work.
The trend in Iowa leans toward conservative. How are your parents and inlaws feeling about this? Are they alarmed? Or are they feeling like it should be business as usual?
Perhaps if you lived in Iowa presently, you might view this situation in a different light, depending on the news media, political stance and general overall information trail that you would be following. Perhaps you would be alarmist. And perhaps you would be middle ground, doing the things necessary to stay safe., and perhaps, going about your everyday life as usual. Nothing appears closed there on the website I checked, but this site has errors.
I guess I should say this. Everyone is not going to get the virus. You and your husband will probably be okay, unless one of you is in worse shape then we think you are, even if you do contract the virus, because you have health and youth on your side. That's just not the case for all, and added to that we have the real possibility that the number of ill at one time will eventually overwhelm the resources available. That is the real fear - no ICU bed and ventilator if you do get sick enough to require them.
I truly appreciate that you and your husband have absorbed the message - that beating this virus requires everyone to take precautions. It's a sign of social responsibility. I'm leaning toward alarmist, because I'm higher risk.
You can advise your loved ones to stay safe and you can try to give them information on how to do this. Hopefully they already know and are practicing safety, and if they don't that they will listen to you and take steps to stay safe.
I'm in contact with many of my relatives and I know they are doing the right things. I do have a couple of close relatives that probably don't do all the things that keep all of us safer. I can't control them so I hope all goes well.